Hi I have a question. I'm from Canada and I'm 22 years old. I have a penpal from Austrailia I met him on christianchat.com. We talk on msn almost everyday and he told me that he wants to meet me next year or the year after when he saves up enough money. We exchanged pictures of ourselves through email. I want to meet him too he is 23 years old. He is thinking about moving down where I live to be with me. He seems like a really nice guy and I really like talking to him. Should I be alittle on gaurd that he wants to visit or live in Canada? It is the internet after all.
Please tell me what you think.
2007-06-09 03:40:48 · 5 answers · asked by becky25ie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You always have to be careful with someone you meet on the internet because they may not be what they seem. If you have any nagging questions don't be afraid to ask them. And don't act any differently just because he's coming from Australia--he's still pretty much a stranger to you. Always meet in public places and don't give him your home address until you get to know him a bit better.
Ask him why he wants to leave Australia for our cold climate, there must be some good reason. If he says he just likes to travel, ask where else he's been. If its for work, find out why he needs to come to Canada for that type of work. If he starts getting irritated that you're asking him so many questions that might be a red flag. Otherwise, you might have met someone really cool so...good luck to ya!
2007-06-09 03:45:59 · answer #1 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is extremely creepy that he's talking about living in Canada. Visiting would be ok if said alone, but living? I'd let hime know that you really love being friends but the fact that he thinks living near you is a good idea makes you very intimidated and you'd like to maybe take it a little slower if that is ok.
Do you even like him? Because if you don't, I don't think it is best to risk it.
There are a lot of guy who are nice to talk to but the one thing I've learned is that most of them just want sex (not all, but most). If you don't believe me, ask your other close guy friends if they've ever been friends with the hopes of sleeping with her one day.
So yeah, keep your caution bumpers up and don't let this guy any more into your life if it makes you uncomfortable.
2007-06-09 04:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by megan f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you always have to be careful when meeting someone on the Internet, are you sure this guy is really 23 years old? are you sure he even lives in Australia and not just someplace in Canada and he hasn't already seen you before? of course you can never be sure, but you really need to feel confident enough that you want to meet this guy and risk the chance that he possibly may not be who you think he is, be careful though, these type of things can be dangerous
good luck
2007-06-09 04:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by iceprincess097 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be cautious, but give it a chance. Make sure you don't commit to anything, and really get to know him in person before making any promises or moving in together. People can seem much different online as in person. if he is a nice guy, he will understand a reasonable amount of suspicion. Make sure you ask him the questions you need to know.
2007-06-09 03:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two can play that game. why don't you tell him that you would rather visit him instead. tell him you'd be more comfortable that way. if he respects you than he'll respect your choice. if things don't work out that way then don't have him stay at your place when he comes to visit you. have him stay somehwere else.
2007-06-09 03:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by buttercupbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋