i feel ashame that...?

Question

when i was 15 yrs old a lady that worked at school took my ".." in her hands sayig it was huge and started to "..".. i feel guilty about that today

Answer 1

Why should YOU feel ashamed? SHE should feel ashamed!!! YOU didn't do ANYTHING WRONG! I want you to get that into your head right now!
You did NOTHING wrong and she should have been reported the minute you left her presence. That is totally inappropriate.
Stop blaming yourself for something you didn't willingly participate in.

Answer 2

That 'lady' needs to be reported immediately!! She has no right working anywhere close to children or teens. What she did is very wrong, and she needs to be punished for violating your privacy. Let's pretend for just a moment that you are a parent of a 15 yr old, and this happened to him. Wouldn't you (as a parent) want this to be stopped? If she did it to you, then how many others has she also done it to? Or how many others will she continue to do it to? I don't know how old you are now or how long ago this happened, but I strongly suggest that you get immediate counseling to help you rid yourself of the guilt that you shouldn't be feeling due to someone else's actions. God bless you, and I really hope you can overcome this and have a strong, healthy relationship in spite of what happened to you. P.S. I was also 'touched' as a teen by my own father, and I felt guilty and never told anyone. It affected my marriage. I am now 51, and because of a very special friend, have been able to forgive my father (who is now dead). I simply picked up my phone one night and pretended to talk to him. I said that I forgive you for being an a$$h013. That doesn't mean I approve of what you did, but I will not give you the satisfaction of ruining my life. Then I hung up the phone. I know it sounds silly, but you'd be surprised at how being able to forgive someone can lift a burden from you.

Answer 3

You shouldn't feel guilty. What she did to you is sick and wrong. She should be the one who feels guilty. This was NOT your fault.
It's up to you if you want to press charges, but you can get free counseling for this kind of thing where I live. (I'm not sure what country you're in) If you can get help, get it because I'm sure it would help you a lot.
It would probably be a good idea to report this to the school as well. There's a chance she could have done this to someone else.

I hope you feel better hun ^_^

xx

Answer 4

For many, that's a pleasant memory. To you, perhaps not.

As time passes, you will adjust. The facts are on your side. You were under age and you did not initiate it. It seems unusual that you would feel guilt. I could understand revulsion or disgust, but guilt implies it was somehow your fault.

So, since the guilt you feel is unjustified, it can not last very long, especially if professional therapy is involved.

Answer 5

Was it the school nurse, like checking you kind of thing? If not you should still report it... heck if it was more than "turn your head and cough" you should report it still. That's not cool! Don't feel guilty, as you did nothing wrong! Tell other people about it and seek help for yourself! Good luck! :)

Answer 6

you shouldn't feel ANY shame for that. A lady who worked at your school was obviously overage, you were underage, and she was completely in the wrong. You should have turned her in, although I know when you go through something like that you don't think clearly. You were ABUSED and that is not your fault at all. The sole responsiblity lies with the adult who should have known better than to molest a child of 15.

Answer 7

i don't have self belief I ever felt ashamed, each and every time I posed nude for my mom or sister. the two one among them are artists, my mom takes paintings very serious and my sister plans to substantial in paintings whilst she is going to college next 300 and sixty 5 days. so they only look at me as an merchandise to attraction to or paint, i'm basically like a bowl of fruit or a panorama so a approaches as they're worried. So whilst they asked me to pose for them I mentioned, sure. We worked mutually interior the afternoons after my sister have been given living house from college or weekends if i did no longer have any modeling classes scheduled.. It became a splash unusual in the commencing up simply by fact a number of my mom's friends or a even a pair of my sister's classmates might provide up and pass to to observe them paintings. i stumbled on it embarrassing at situations with human beings I knew observing me whilst I posed. I by no potential extremely felt they regarded at me as basically an paintings merchandise like my mom and sister did. It became embarrassing nevertheless consistent with possibility a splash flattering to my ego whilst my sister introduced at dinner that one among her friends had weigh down on me afer she observed me posing telling incredibly everyone how sturdy I regarded. My dad and brother's in basic terms comments have been she's have been given to be kidding and made distinctive jokes approximately me posing until eventually my mom mentioned ok then you definately men pose. They stopped, understanding they might by no potential do it. i assume i'm gentle now when I pose and form of omit the objective audience if we don't have travellers.

Answer 8

Talk to your parents about it, and if you feel comfortable about it, talk to the school where it took place. You may not be the only victim. If that woman is still there, your actions could help to ensure she is no longer victimizes children. I'm sorry this happened to you.

Answer 9

First,you should know one thing about male gender
that,because of their personality,in usual way and
conditions about sexuality and usual relationship,
they thinking about sex more than female gender.

And this feeling is not a strong feeling for all of days
it occurring just for a 1-3 days just because of they don't
have any ejaculation for few days and its strength stress
them to thinking about sex and get it with you.

you should just amuse his think with other interests of him.

Answer 10

Something that may help you in overcoming this is to talk to a therapist, counselor or priest about it, and then to report her.

You are not the only person this has happened to, but you can prevent it from happening to others.