Please help! I came to USA from Mexico in '99 and marry an American. After 2 years marriagge to him, something happen to me. I got bored. I had run up the bills to 15,000 dollars. He always had to work to pay bills. I started to see someone elsse secretly, and wrecked the car while seeing my new man, and my hussband get very mad at me. My husband were mad for 2 month, but he forgave me. Everything was OK but I get bored again and go back to my lover. I got mad at my husband and lie to police that he beat me and that I want a restraint order to teach him a lesson. I had child with my lover. When the restrain order lift on my husband, he never come for me. Now my lover left with another woman. My husband has new woman. I see him singing to her karyokie in restaraunt. Now he they is asking me for divorce and if he get it, I am maybe deported. My husband do good he have money everything even home but lawyer say I get nothing for adultery. I change. I learn english... How to win him back?
2007-06-09 02:58:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no way.....he should be lucky he finally got rid of you....say hola to mexico!!!!!
2007-06-09 03:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Worldtraveler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy answer to this.....some people on here would endorse your adultery as "natural human behavior" and encourage you to continue on as you are going. Others, as you'll see, will only offer negative criticisms. The truth is, now that you've had your fun and crashed & burned....no matter how much he loved you at one time, you put a roadbloack in front of him with the order of protection you falsified. Maybe he wanted to come see you during the time you say he wouldn't come for you....but maybe the heartbreak of you lying with another man ( although condoned and encouraged by today's standards) was too much for his heart to bear. Eventually, his heart obviously healed and he met another woman. His aformentioned "singing to her" signifies a deep feeling which you may not have felt for HIM.
My advice to you, if deported, is to take your time. Live your life day by day. It's easy to say you still love him now that he's prospered. Who knows? Maybe his new woman will turn out to be abusive just the same. Maybe, just maybe, if it came to pass, by that time you'll have matured into a woman that can show a little discipline and look to the future and appreciate what you have.
Give it time, thought, and prayer.
What else do you have?
Que dios te bendiga, corazon.
2007-06-09 10:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry hon but i'm gonna have to give you the same advice as most people have. Let your husband go, why would you do something like that to him when he's been looking after you like he has and by accepting your apology. I think there's nothing you can do. I know how scary it is to go back to your country and you can't stay in the uk anymore but these things happened. I hope you learnt a lesson from this. I;m sorry but there's no advice that i would want to give you apart from move on.
2007-06-09 12:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazzy are you on drugs woman you had a husband who was american if he didnt marry you your a** wouldnt even be in america say hola to mexico woman!!!! like they say god has a plan for everyone karma is a B**** you understand!! what comes around goes around it always comes back around so your husband the america one is laughing at you and saying you got played SRY SWEETY but dont you have a green card and social security or cizentiship i mean dont you get it when youre married? so if he divorce wont you still have it well if this is not the case im sry girl but you gonna get deported THAT HOT IT IS WHEN YOU FELT BORED AND LEFT YOUR AMERICAN HUSBAND FOR SOMEONE ELSE COULDNT YOU WORK THINGS OUT!!!? NOW GOD IS TELLING YOU THAT GOOD FOR YOU NOW SAY THIS HOLA TO MEXICO!!!!!!
2007-06-09 13:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DON'T. Do you actually think that your husband will take you back after you cheated with him 2 times after getting "bored". You called the cops on him saying he beat you, and then you got a restraining order. You seem to get "bored" very easily, so he shouldn't take you back. If you get deported, it's your own fault.
2007-06-09 10:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by picns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to give good advice to someone that may just take it and abuse it to hurt someone else. I mean, if I had a magic wand, and I waved it over your husband and he took you back, what guarantee do I have that you won't just head back to your old life style? I mean, look at your husband! He's happy. He has a good woman who loves him, respects him in good times and bad. He's waited for you to change and given you enough chances to do it. Yet you spit in his face for it (metaphorically). I would love to see a broken marriage repaired, but, before I want that I would need to see a life changing character in your personality. You're not good for him! That's plain to see. I advice you change your philosophy on what marriage is first. Become that woman your husband would want to have. But, really, I think you should give him the divorce. He deserves to have someone like he has now. Don't ruin it for him!
2007-06-09 10:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you change, how can he ever trust you again? Have you apologized? And you lied to the police, another reason that he can not trust you.
Find a way to prove that you are trustworthy and not a liar. It sounds like it is too late.
2007-06-09 10:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by Summer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love this man you are just using him - I hope he divorces you and you do get deported. You deserve it. A matter a fact why don't you do every other man a favor and start walking across the border now!! You f*&%ing B*$^h
2007-06-09 10:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you can convince your husband to want you back after all you've done to him. Face it, you messed up.
At this point, do the honorable thing and give him a divorce so that he can live his life and have a second chance at marriage.
2007-06-09 14:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late for this relationship. I hope you have learned that you can't treat people this way. Cherish this lesson, be a better person and move on.
2007-06-09 10:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by eliza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have some nerve filing fake charges on someone that is a very serious thing to do that could wreck someones life for good. you need to leave this guy and grow up.
2007-06-09 10:03:15 · answer #11 · answered by matt r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋