Married two years,divorced for three months.Both of us are 43,known each other since we were kids.No chlderen together.Simple divorce without a good reason.I wanted counseling she didn't.I miss our freindship,talking to her on a daily basis.She says its strange and uncomfortable to be friends with someone you were married to.Is she a shallow person ? I can't understand how much she has changed.Is it just easier for her this way,maybe shes hurting in her own way,i don't know she wasn't ever really open with me when it came to her thoughts,very private and secretive.Always giving me just enough info to leave me asking for more.
2007-06-09 02:43:50 · 5 answers · asked by Rodger M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be patient... These things take time and space... Don't push..
Sounds like you are missing someone you were used to, whether it was healthy or not...Good Luck...
2007-06-09 02:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by gypsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, people are like snowflakes, no two are alike, so any ansewr or opinion i woul offer here would be pure conjecture. People grow together in a relationship and sometimes they dont. The usual culprits are lack of communication, money, different goals for life, or sometimes just habits that you love at first, you learn to hate later. Ive been married for twenty three years and the same thing is beginning to happen to me. As you grow older in life, you realize different things to value and you need to make sure the people and things you love know whats going on with you. Its very hard to think of things in terms of us, lots of times you think in terms of I and dont even realize it. Im not much of a writer here, and DEFINITELY not a grammer expert, but maybe it might help to simply wirte your feelings down, or even keep a diary for a month. Have some written record of how your life changes so quickly and some things that you value lots more than you realize. My point here is when you write them down and examine them later, you will have a whole different outlook on the situations you encounter and maybe you will get an idea about what the other person felt or had seen. Praying also helps and so does going to someone you both knew personally and asking. The catch there is you may not always get the answer your looking for. Good luck and god bless.
2007-06-09 09:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this with an ex. It took a good two years but we got back to the point we could sit in the same room and be civil. Before too long we were able to go out and have a few drinks as friends. Just give it some time. She probably is distancing herself for emotional reasons. Once she gets her thoughts and heart back together she'll come around. Good luck
2007-06-09 09:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you've getting the big picture from all of the answers you've received to all of your questions. Your ex has deep issues which she needs to solve. In the meantime live your life the best you can. If you two are really "the s*it" together (LOL), meaning meant to be, you will get back together again. But not until it's the right time. Good luck!
2007-06-10 10:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most adult men don't do well with female "friends" to begin with, except your coworkers or relatives. Men friends have unwritten rules and learn that growing up playing with the "boys".
What do you have to gain to talk to a woman everyday anyway? Solve your mental problems? Or your work problems? Or is she the mother or sister role you want? Or are you trying to show you are a "rare" man who can be sensitive to women (as the book on how to score tells you to do)?
2007-06-09 10:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋