(this has been on my chest for the past few months... *deep breath*) its called a 'mid-life crisis'... my wife gave me one strange look... "darling.. what's wrong... mid life crisis?"....SAY WHAT??
iam the only guy here?? oh and i need a mistress asap!
2007-06-09 02:39:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm coming very close to 40 and I feel like I'm coming onto a mid-life crisis. I know a lot about mental health, so I know where a lot of my feelings are coming from. I would definitely stay away from an affair or anything else that will do lasting damage to your life.
I've been letting my wife know that I'm coming into a different stage and she's trying to be there for me. Sometimes I demand unconditional love and can be very demanding. Like I said, she's trying to be there for me and is trying to be open to new things including new things in bed.
She recently agreed to buy me a new BMW hardtop for my 40th b-day. Now, I think I want one, but I'm really not sure that I would really drive one but the fact that she's sincere and would really work to get me one really pleases and satisfies me.
If your wife really loves you and likes to help you, then she'll be willing to do a lot to help you through your crisis.
If you don't have that sorta relationship, then maybe it'll be harder for you.
Counseling might also help.
Lots of luck.
2007-06-09 05:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by KI557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mid life crisis is real and can happen as early as mid to late 30s to mid/late 40s. This is when you are no longer young, your body is not as fast/durable/thin as before, you worked very hard on a checklist (education, jobs, marriage, kids, houses, promotions) and all of a sudden, you run out of missions. And you neither feel old nor ready to accept that notion. Some lesser accomplished find they are running out of time to get what they want.
Some find their parents or friends dying and they haven't spent enough time with them. The priorities are no longer the same. You can't resolve it and don't know how to articulate it to others. They don't know if they should blame their spouses or the world so they contemplate a new start before it's too late.
There are certainly many men who leave their family as results of mid life crises. Can't debate it is right or wrong here. A mistress is only a dose of medicine to the symptom, not the root cause of the problem.
2007-06-09 03:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine bought a thirty thousand dollar motorcycle...He was running from middle age, graying, and most everyone at work younger than him. How did I make him feel better? I refused to ride the thing with him and told him he is on his own. His mid life lasted three years -his bike was stolen at a motel in Ft. Lauderdale. Thank goodness for insurance. I didn't help him thru it because I don't believe in mid life crisis. I know it happens, but I'm happy for every day of life...don't look forward and don't look back
2016-05-20 22:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got ya covered dude when you file for an extension on your Taxes you can file for a extension on you Mid life crisis start date. I have yet to have my mid life crisis yet! at 43 so I guess I will wait another 40 and have mine at 80.
As for a Mistress don't have one of those either But I am willing to Learn!
2007-06-09 03:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by kiphyn b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both men and women go through the same thing but each will handle it differently. Me? *G* I went out and bought a Suzuki GSXR 1100 motorcycle best thing I ever did. When you reach the big 40 most tend to start to look back at there life because at 40 most feel there life is half over and they take a good hard look at themselves. Things like are you happy with.....relationship,work, and your life. Each person is different some are happy with things some are not and the ones that are not happy do things to make themselves happy. My advice.....enjoy life and have a good time and don't go through the rest of your life with....I wished I would have.....
2007-06-09 02:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my wife expected me to go get a sports car, with a young blond in it. I think they have just been bombarded with this mid-life crisis thing that they feel all men must go through it and in the very same way.
2007-06-09 02:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex had something I suppose you would call it mid life crisis. He cheated on me after 20 years and becam the hitler of the entire family. He ruined our lives and our marriage and his mistress dumped him.
If you love your wife try and get her to counseling or go alone, divorce is a nightmare that no one deserves.
Trust me on this, you dont want your life to go this way, it leads to pain, regret and lossof home and family.
2007-06-09 02:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine's mid-life crisis came a little later, he was 51 when he started an affair with a tramp that he worked with, and threw a 30 year marriage away and also his son.
2007-06-09 05:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all want one of those, dude, but keep in mind that mistresses tend to be demanding, expensive, jealous, and highly time-consuming. That's why so many of us opt for red Porsches or airplanes - you still get to f**k them (figuratively speaking), they're still demanding, expensive, jealous, and highly time-consuming, but in the long run, they're cheaper. Somewhat. DAMMIT I WANT A WOMAN!!!
2007-06-09 02:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what does it look like?
The reason i ask is that I am 51 and haven't had one yet. Does this mean I'll live to be over 100?
2007-06-09 02:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋