How do you find positive people to surround yourself with?

Question

I want to be around more positive people. I am divorced and am currently living with my parents. My daughter is 15 and lives with her Dad in another state.

I talk to my cousin about some of the issues that I am going through with my ex-husband. She says that I should contact a lawyer for harassment and stalking. I do not agree and she gets frustrated with me. She also points out my weaknesses.. She is one year older than me, but I have decided not to talk to her much anymore.

I spoke on the phone with my brother and he insulted me so I hung up on him. I later sent a note to apologize, but he did reply. My cousin keeps reminding me that I hung up on him.

I don't talk too much to my parents. They judge me in their own ways.

I do attend a Divorce Recovery Group once a week and get support from it. They have outings once every few weeks.

How else can I try and avoid negative people and be around more positive, uplifiting people?

Answer 1

The best way is being positive yourself. People like the persons who smile most of the time and who are optimistic.
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Answer 2

You're only letting us have half of the story. It would be good to hear from the others why they are responding to you in this way.

If you are being harrassed and stalked, but won't confront it, then it sounds like you have no boundaries set for what you will tolerate in your life and what you won't.

When you establish known boundaries, then and only then will the negative people leave you alone. The boundaries should be established to filter out the weak, negative people from your past and present.

Say for example a person decides to quit cursing, smoking, drinking or doing drugs (or all of the above) and not necessarily for religious reasons, just in hopes of attracting people of higher morals and better character. When the person quits doing those things, you'd be surprised at how many people who do engage in those activities will slowly leave you alone and quit inviting you out to curse and drink with them. You won't have to tell them to leave, they will quit coming around because you have so little in common now.

Just examples of course, not meant literally.
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Answer 3

I suggest that you go away from it all for a while if it's possible.
avoid whoever makes you sick and don't give a fig about what they say or think. it's your life after all and Whoever Makes the Most Mistakes Wins.
try new people anytime
and I tell you lady if you wanna positive be positive

Answer 4

I like to stick as up beat as I can . At occasions individuals are down ,and as being a buddy you will have to stand via them .Good with the unhealthy occasions, will consistently exhibit who's a truly buddy.Positive is special ,I suppose it has to head hand in hand.

Answer 5

i agree that church will definitely help you, get involved in bible studies, church activities, anything . Church is the best place to find positive people and do get a more positive outlook on life!

Answer 6

well .. i think u should keep yourself busy in your hobbies..do something creative ... you will feel good about yourself ..and dat 'll increase your positivity....

Answer 7

go to church