how do accept myself the way i am when i hate so many parts of me?when i know that i hv hurted so many ppl ?

Answer 1

You have acknowledged the fact that you have hurt people and you seem regretful about it. What is done is done. You cannot undo it but you can learn from it and hopefully try not to repeat it. Feeling sorry for yourself or hating yourself will not change your past actions. But, you can learn valuable lessons from the past, embrace the present and focus on the future and you'll be on your way to being a better person. We've all been there, so lighten up.

Answer 2

I was like that myself. I had hurt a lot of people. And I didn't like who I was. It was hard to look in the mirror at myself. You can't change the past. I'm sorry for what I have done, but I don't have to be that way anymore. I know what is right in my heart. You do too! If the people really love you, they will love you in spite of it. Be the best that you can be.

Answer 3

If you feel guilty and regret your deeds in the past, you are in a very good position in being a better person. The problem in the world is people don't even regret what they do and they simply forget their mistakes.

When you hurt others, it hurts them. When you realise it, it hurts you and it also brings a change in you towards making yourself a better person.

Don't hate yourself. Take life as a lesson. With every experience you've had, it only makes you better as long as you realise what you've done.

Realisation is a wisdom in itself.

Answer 4

you come to understand that by being human always their are feelings involved, and that sometimes we make make others feel bad, buyt we also see that at times we make others feel good, all of us have parts of ourselves we despise, we do things which are evil, wicked but we also are kind and compassionent, it is the ying and yang of our nature , noone is perfect we all have flaws, the question is do i do something about my flaws or do i continue in them, do i change or stay the same, enen the most holy person still has sin in their life, it is part of the human condition, embrace it, know who you are , know what you would like to be, but understand you can not be perfect and cut yuorself some slack, allow to expeience all aspects of the self the good , the bad and the ugly

Answer 5

We all have regrets. But dwelling on your past mistakes will not gain you anything.
Go, ask people to forgive you, and forgive yourself too. Then you can try to do better and have a better view of yourself.
You have to love yourself in spite of yourself.
Read Erich Fromm's "The Art of Loving"--how self-love is the beginning of loving.
Don't forget that we are all human and we all do things that we wish we could undo.

Answer 6

You are not responsible for how others feel. If you believe that you have hurt others, make a choice to stop doing that.

At the time of hurting others, you likely felt justified which is likely anger than has gone awry.

Answer 7

It's never too late for change. People that you have hurt may be weary of you, but if you make an honest effort to change for the better, talking to them and settling your disputes should be easier because they may notice this change.

Answer 8

You tell yourself that everyone on this earth has hurt other people at one time or another and what makes you special is that it is actually bothering you that you hurt people, whereas most people are self centered and don't care that they have hurt others.

Answer 9

Don't hurt any more people intentionally.
You are not your past mistakes unless you allow that to be your truth.
Change your behavior and be good to others. This will make it easier to be good to yourself.
This does not happen overnight and it requires patience with yourself.
Good luck, I have every faith and confidence in your ability to do this.
XOXO

Answer 10

When you understand why you made the errors and see that they are forgiveable. It is a tedious process but everyone has to do it - in order to return to being and accepting your true nature.