i had a drunken 1 night stand with a girl ive never seen before 2 weeks ago then we got pally and i started finding out things about her, like shes a alcholic druggie who partys every day n night. she then said when she was high on wizz pissed out of her tree and stoned that she was pregnent with my child. I dont no if i can believe her plus what are the chances of that happening whilst shes in that state all the time. What makes it wost shes saying that if she is shes keeping it. what would you do? can you find out your pregnent at such a early stage?
2007-06-08 23:04:21 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would get sex education and the snip if I was u!
2007-06-08 23:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by diamondgirl 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Well you don't need anyone here to tell you how stupid you have been. I think the first thing you should do is to get yourself checked out at your local clinic pronto. If this is something this girl does regularly, you have put yourself and any potential partners at risk. And one strong swimmer is all it takes! The fact that she was out of her tree, funnily enough, is not a form of contraception - condoms however, are!
I would certainly push for a paternity test when the baby is born (assuming she goes ahead with the pregnancy and that the pregnancy is real) and make it clear to the girl that if the baby is yours you will support the baby and not her drug habit. If it is yours, take responsibility for it's health and well-being, if the mother is a druggie then that child is going to really need you.
And if there is a next time, just remember - "NO GLOVE, NO LOVE".
2007-06-09 06:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by ANDREA A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well calling the girl an 'alcholic druggie who partys every day n night' isn't going to sort this one out mate.
First thing u need 2 do is grow up... and fast!
If the girl is pregnant and she wants 2 keep the baby, then there isn't really much u can do, well except start saving up.
If u thought u were old enough, responsible enough and man enough to have an unprotected 1 night stand with somebody u barely knew then u should b old enough, responsible enough and man enough to accept the consequences of you actions.
Get a grip!
2007-06-09 06:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Adam H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
'What makes it worse she's saying that if she is she's keeping it' - That says everything. So you think it's ok to go and have unprotected sex with someone you've never met, and then when you find out she may be pregnant you think she can just pop a pill and get rid of it? You created that life, so you deal with the consequences. How dare you be so selfish as to think you can go sticking it where you like and then killing babies here there and everywhere just because it doesn't suit you right now - why don't you put something on the end of it????? If she is an alcoholic and on drugs then that could pose a risk to the baby - but you should have found that out before you slept with her. If you're 'responsible' enough to have sex then you must face up to the result - you have no right whatsoever to tell this woman to kill her unborn child. Grow up and get some sex education you selfish idiot.
2007-06-09 06:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it were only two weeks ago i honestly wouldnt think she would know if she were pregnant or not- unless she was trying to get pregnant on purpose. you can always do a blood pregnancy test to find out... if shes a druggie maybe shes trying to get some money out of you. i think this should teach you a lesson about responsibility and the things that can happen when you arent careful. i dont think her keeping the baby is a bad thing, considering what the other options are (ABORTION- WRONG). the only bad thing is what are the affects of the baby gonna be if she continues to use drugs? and paternity tests can be around $600. so... hopefully money isnt an issue for you!
2007-06-09 07:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by Renee M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you're man enough to have sex with a girl like that, you should take all the responsibility that comes with that! That includes the emotional side of it, and the financial and physical sides as well. A one night stand... or a lifetime with a child that never deserved such dumb parent's? The only way to fix this is to change your ways, try abstinence, and take care of your responsibilities. Don't blame her... it takes 2 to tango, and she already has to deal with most of the 'punishment'...( and that doesn't mean the baby is a bad thing!) If she is not pregnant, or if the baby is not yours, take this as a lesson learner.
2007-06-09 07:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! I think you've learnt a valuable lesson here. Erm yes she could have found out she was pregnant.
Did you use a condom?
Was she sleeping with anyone else at the time?
I think IF she does turn out to be pregnant you'll need a DNA test when the baby is born. But she might just be messing around.
I think it might be best to ask your a few questions like "how do you know it's mine?" and make her aware that for your sake you will definatley want a DNA test when the baby is born and this might scare her into telling you the truth (if she's lying)
Or better still get your mum to talk to her. You see this could all be a game to her. Get her to show you a positive test stick, arrange to meet her and bring a pregnancy kit and ask her to wee on it for you---this way you'll know if she';s pregnant or not for sure.
Hope this helps.
2007-06-09 06:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
well if she is, I admit I feel sorry for the baby.
Chances are youll be one of a few she gets to decide between as being the dad. either that or the poor baby will have FATHER UNKNOWN on its birth certificate.
Yes she could find out now. i f you were wanting sympathy youve come to the wrong place Im afraid.
For the record, you can get free condoms... there are places that just give them away...
if you think some people have answered your question treating you like an idiot, its because youve acted like one.
If you dont get an STD youre blooody lucky.
2007-06-13 06:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by Dani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always the male thinks with there Meat and 2 veg then think with there brain after
Sorry to say Hun you wont no if the baby is yours
not unless she keeps it and YOU take it on your self to get a DNA test
that poor child she is carrying
i am not going to put down this woman with insults because that solves nothing plus she is carrying a innocent child in her body
As for you has this woke you up ?????
that is why we have condoms it is a real good contraceptive the male puts it on and it stops baby's being put on this earth that are not really wanted
Think you need to sort this out and double quick
please start thinking with your brain and not your meat and 2 veg
Respect
shaz
2007-06-09 06:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This should be a major lesson learned. Next time you think about tapping it.....put a cap on it. And yes a women can get pregnant from her first encounter. And I think the question is....what are you gonna do if you find out she is pregnant and it is your baby? Sad part of this story is really this...there may be an innocent child who could be greatly affected by the stupidity of both its makers. Chances are it wont be good. May there be a good ending to this one! Peace!
2007-06-09 06:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by Kaualani E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it dose not matter what state she is in if you have unprotected sex you can get pregnant
you should of been more responsible and used a condom
not only is there pregnancy but what if shes past on an std to you
i would think that if she sleeps about then you need to get a DNA test when and if she has the baby(if shes telling the truth)
but also go to a clinic and get checked out yourself
and in future learn from you mistakes
2007-06-09 07:50:27 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ mum of 4 ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋