Why did this girl act like this?

Question

We had problems with each other in the past,and there was tension,but i had a good conversation with her(i treated her respectfully,asked her how her year was going,restrained my temper in front of her,patted her gently on the back of her seat,and gave her the space she needed when we finished.)Shortly thereafter,she walked by me looking warm peaceful and with a bit of a smile on her face.Is that a good thing?She's also middle-eastern,and aren't they known as backstabbers and untrustworthy?Is she out to one-up me,or was her gesture a good thing?

Answer 1

Okay... You patted her on the seat.... a no no
You held back your temper.........
You felt tension....
The warm peaceful smile on her face....did that give you a clue as to maybe she had you all figured out.
I think she was finished.
Sorry the news isn't better for you.

Answer 2

First, I have to say, your comments about "middle-easterners" being "known" as backstabbers is extremely judgemental and close-minded. Some PEOPLE are that way and some aren't, but it has nothing to do with race, ethnic background, religion, etc. Second, your question doesn't make alot of sense. Exactly what gesture are you referring to? The smile on her face? That isn't a gesture, just an expression. If she's smiling, she's probably happy.... how on Earth would that be "one-upping" you?! Take it or leave it, it is what it is.

Answer 3

ok
ur questions isnt complete
(im going to assume since u said she is also mid eastern, that ur from the middle east and english is ur second language and u couldnt completely make urself understood to everyone on here in yahoo answers)

everyone has problems in relationships, some have bigger problems, lets assume that ur problems were normal and understandable, and therefore not the reasons for the relationship break up.
im also going to assume that you and her had good long deep conversations about things that matter to both of you and are interesting to both of you.
im going to continue to assume that by restrained your temper you mean that you did not become overly aggressive or angry when you had your problems together.

now for the specific actions which you say she inacted im going to assume that you were behind her in a class and you tapped on the back of her seat to let her know that you were there after you had broken up for a while, and instead of acknowledging your presence and wish to converse, she ignored you and walked past you with a smile on her face.

so. why did she act that way?
id say it means that she is over you doesnt yet wish to talk with you or be involved with u again at this time, but bears no ill will or anger.

i don't know if any one social group of women is more or less untrustworthy or backstabby.
so ill say its ok that she is giving you clear signals to keep your distance at this time, not by saying so outloud, cos all girls like a bit of attention, but by simply not engaging you when you obviously wish to converse.

if you really wish to try to have a relationship with this person, id say try again in a few days, give her space, treat her like a friend that u don't see much next time you see her, wave hello smile or nod, if she talks to you talk back, politely about inconsequential things, ask her how shes going, but act like ur busy.
play hard to get a little.
if she is interested shell let you know by talking to you or attempting to talk to you.
if she snubs you or shows no interest then find another girl to try to have a relationship with, don't go up to her with friends in tow, be a man and act on ur own.

thats all i could get from ur question(dont be stalker, dont obsess about her, if ur interested in her then hope she obsesses about you )

Answer 4

Why don't you analyse yourself? If you are thinking of back stabbing a word which could not be generated from your heart even after expressing a good gesture that too in her absecne indicates your back stabbing mentality .

Answer 5

My advice is don't second guess what people do, it will drive you crazy.

Take everything people do on face value. This makes liars and cheats go crazy because they assume not one will believe them.

If someone acts nice, then maybe they are trying to nice.

Just wait and see.

Answer 6

she's one up on you alright. Since when are you gods gift. I bet your neighbors have watched you pick your nose but yet they shut the **** up. The only person you have to prove something to is yourself because one day some ones gonna tear you apart!