2007-06-08 22:20:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Self love. Because you can't love others until you love yourself first
2007-06-08 22:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the traits about yourself that you do not love. Make a choice to let go of being those things and your feelings about yourself will change.
Unfortunately, love for the self or for others, is often based on appearance.
2007-06-09 01:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Beardog, Movie Mad, Sosia and Roy; it's not an either/or question. Neither is exclusive; there is no economy of love.
This is speculation, but it seems to me that in loving we forget one or the other. Of course neither ceases to exist, they just disappear for a moment. I also suspect that when self-love is held as the condition of loving others, it's an out for narcissism ("Sorry, can't love anyone else yet - gotta love myself first. I'll call ya when I'm ready").
But to me, total other-love to the exclusion of self smacks of self-loathing, and that can't be good. Besides, it's totally contradictory. If you hate yourself, you feel it'd be better if you weren't in the picture - but then how could you love others? You wouldn't be around! So it only makes sense that love of self and others only comes in tandem.
From a Christian viewpoint (I can't say anything about others), this comes through clear enough. When Jesus said, "Love one another as yourself," that formula gives equal time to self and others. And when He said, "Love one another as I have loved you," which He demonstrated most potently on the cross, the message comes through - love *everyone*, including *yourself*, and love everyone *a lot*.
I don't see how this conflicts with other creeds (do Buddhists think it's bad to love their enemies?), and it's in the air anyway (as an ideal, if not a reality). Our modern sensibility is built on it - a democracy of justice and love. It just seems to me that in practice, love of self or others is a momentary thing.
2007-06-08 23:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by strateia8 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Self love . Only when you love yourself you actually feel how to be loved and love others. All other things are mere conjectures best confined to theories
2007-06-08 22:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Prince Prem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wisdom of the ancients tells us that BALANCE is necessary in all things. Therefore self-love must be balanced by unselfish love for others, preferably for all living things and for the Earth itself.
2007-06-08 22:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving every one and every thing equally is the best form of love. that is real love. no partiality is involved. self love on the other hand is selfishness. it only helps to increase once ego.
2007-06-08 22:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself.
When you love yourself, you cannot but help loving the people around you.
2007-06-08 23:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Wrackspurt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love yourself, there is no room for not loving everything. We have to start from selflove.
2007-06-11 14:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by awakenursoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greater love hath no man than to lay down his life for a friend.
2007-06-08 22:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by jsardi56 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love yourself people may or may not love you for that.....
but if you love others... all will love you even more and that would end up in 'you falling in love with your own self'....
2007-06-08 23:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by in search of utopia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋