My husband says he loves me but he turns his head for every girl passing him.?

Question

We have been married for 14 years. He says he loves me so much and I believe him. we have 2 kids and we work hard. both have good jobs. Something annoys me and that is, he turns his head for every girl passing him. Even in the parties he keeps looking at girls. what does it mean. does it mean he is unloyal or will be or he is lying that he loves me.

Answer 1

Looking towards opposite sex specially for men is not a serious matter,about 60 to 85% men (20-45+)age used to attract towards girls or ladies,when ever they see any other girl or lady, But it doesnot mean that they are not loyal towards their family. Actually opposite attraction factor is created by God, Just to run the world & this Is present in both men & women, But usally women controls themselves & hide each & every such thing in their mind (This power of hiding such matters is also presented by God), so you need not worry & be happy with your husband, give him lots of love at home, keeping faith on him, result will be on your side, Thanks

Answer 2

Most people will tell you that this is normal and it is up to a certain point. Looking is one thing ...but if the look lingers to long you have to wonder what he is thinking? They say cheating starts in the mind and if this is true how can ogling to long be right? There is a fine line here and most women can tell when a man looks at you if there is sexual intent in his eyes. Wives pick up on this fairly easily when husbands forget that the wife is in the same room as he gives the other woman the lust look!! If he has no control with the wife there then how can a man control his desires if the wife wasn't there and the woman approached him? Well they also say that as women we have a gut feeling about our men and normally we are never wrong about it! Women can be very in tune when things are not LOOKING right! I feel that when a man loves a special woman he can choose to respect HER while in her presence and when he is not. A normal look at a person is one thing but if it continues to the point where it annoys the wife or the other person the husband has an issue. As women connected to the men with the lust look we can always tell when our men are appreciating an attractive woman and when they are undressing her in a sexual stare! As they say the eyes are the window to the soul ......you can tell alot about a person by the way he looks at things! If he gazes to long on a set of breasts or his eyes linger to long on her nice behind there is no mistake in what a man is thinking!....and God forbid if wives bring this to her husbands attention that we discover that he is also a liar! This is where our husbands get confusing and wives wonder if we need to be checked for some eye glasses? They tell us we are crazy and that they were not LOOKING AT THAT WOMAN LIKE THAT! So now he has the world believing that we are insecure and that we have no trust in them and now we have given them the excuse and their justification of someday acting on what they have been accused of! See they only need something out of us to make them feel not guilty! As women we all know that LOOK and..... just as many claim this is normal for all men to do then it is normal for women to go with their gut feeling........because normally that is never wrong. Have a great day sweetie!

Answer 3

There's nothing sinister about his behaviour. Think about it. We are a species like all others on this planet. As a species we have to survive, the alternative is to go extinct like many others have. Survival is programmed unto us in a variety of ways. Women tend to be attracted to men and men to women, unless that were programmed into us, we'd rarely ever mate to keep the species alive. Women are also genetically programmed to not be too promiscuous since it takes a long time to raise a kid. This too is important for species survival. Men on the other hand have only one primary role in the world of species survival, inseminating as many women as possible. That role ensures that the genetic material is spread about which in turn also better ensures species survival. This is how we managed to survive as a species for four million years already.

A lot has changed over that time of course. However the genetics of our bodies has remained pretty much the same. As a result it's natural for men to look at women of all ages and to continue to do so. It makes no difference if you are the most attractive lady in the world and the best wife, we will still admire girls day in and day out, it's part of our fundamental genetic programming. It doesn't mean that you are not loved or treasured or even admired, it simply means we are playing out something very primeval that is a part of our character. Thankfully that program doesn't extend to also chasing every woman who comes along so it's just looking and nothing else.

Consider it this way, you have a lovely painting in your house that you love and admire. You'll never give it up or replace it because it's something you really treasure. Does that mean now that you'll never go to an art gallery again or never look at another painting in a store? I don't think so. If you're an art lover you will continue to admire art in all of its many forms. But that doesn't mean you'll necessarily buy another work or art, it simply means that you have the capacity to admire the others.

I'm sure that there are things that you are attracted to as well and you will look at and admire them too. That doesn't mean anything at all, it simply means you have an interest in something you like to look at.

I hope that helps you understand a little more about us.

Answer 4

it means hes probably faithful and cant help but to check out other women...I been with my woman 6 years and do the same thing and I love her very much but the fact is men are dogs and if we cant have them, we can at least look because variety is the spice of life and we have builtin natural instincts to help procreation. also to add its a matter of respect and timing, you cant make it super obvious and just check out every woman that goes by, and I am so upfront sometimes that I will say damn shes cute and my woman laughs and agrees or disagrees and then playfully hits me in the arm or something...we trust each other and thats that

Answer 5

It's a guy thing... I know what you mean though & so will a lot of women... It doesn't necessarily mean that he is unloyal or is lying. Just be thankful that he is only looking!!

Answer 6

The fact that he looks at other girls is normal but that he looks when you're there just means he is not very sensitive or not very smart. Don't question whether he loves you or not or whether he's loyal. I really think that even if you desire someone else, if you don't act on it goes to show how your really feel about the person you're with. If you don't act because you don't want to hurt the person then you really love them.

Answer 7

Have you made him aware of his behavior and how much it annoys you? Pointing it out is the first step. Most likely it just means that he is immature and going through a phase. Point out then redirect his attention back to you whenever he is oogling.

My ex would always, not sometimes but always look at every womans breasts that we met. It was almost like some neanderthal behavior to make sure she was really female. Of course my ex denied it, I think he didn't realize he was doing it. Now he stares at my breasts whenever we see eachother.

Men can be so immature, I feel for you.

Answer 8

It sounds like the passion is over, at least for him. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it possibly just means that he isn't sexually attracted to you anymore. It could also mean he is thinking about (conciously or subconciously) having sexual relations with someone else. If you're willing to, talk to him about it. But don't confront him. Maybe ask him what he would change about you, or maybe you guys aren't spending "quality" time together? And to a guy quality time is usually something passionate. If you think this is serious, consult a marriage counselor. Remember, it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you or the children you have together. He's just looking.

Answer 9

It depends on what loyal means to you. If loyal means, he's not in bed with another woman, then, he's probably being loyal. But if loyal means a faithful heart, then that's something else. One things for certain, he doesn't care much about your feelings. He knows it bothers you, yet he continues. That's disrespectful. I would say that if he loved you as much as he claims, he should be able to at least treat you with respect.

Answer 10

It means he is a normal male with urges. You should trust him and know its not an issue after 14 years. Be happy that he obviously still has urges and hasn't ever acted on them. Also you could get him some blinders that they use on race horses to keep him looking straight.