do you eve feel like you're alone?? pls answer :(?

Question

i feel alone right now. I have couple of close friend who i can talk to but not about everything and they dont really get what i feel. I feel so left out cus im not so popular or im not good enough to fit in at school. Im very nice to people who is nice to me but thats not enough to make them wanna be my real friends. at least thats how i feel. Im trying out a dance right now and i dont know anybody and some of the girls are very uptight and think they're better than anybody else. I feel so small when im at practice and i wanna be cool with everybody but i dont know how :( do you guys ever felt like this before? like you dont fit in and feel like you cant do it anymore so wanna give up? I just want your opinion and if you gonna answer some dumb stuff cus you got now life then do so. But i would appreciate some decent answers. Thank you.

Answer 1

I don't mean to be rude, but, reading between the lines, I see a self esteem problem. I would encourage you to change how you think of yourself first before you expect anyone in your school or anywhere else to do so. Your feelings are a reflection of your thoughts my friend. I want to encourage you with this:

1. I want you to use one thing while you are still young. You can apply this to your dancing and any other area you want to. If you want to be good at dancing. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. Instead use your imagination to see yourself dancing a lot better than you are now. I want you to picture it in your mind all the time. I want to encourage you to read a specific book: Think and Grow Rich. It is a good book about the mind and how you can program it to be whatever you want to be. You are very young and you have the opportunity to make yourself into the best dance or whatever you want to be. But you must see it in your mind first. When that voice tells you that you don't fit in. I want you to tell yourself that you are an extraordinary dancer. I mean extraordinary too. You have to believe in yourself even when nobody else does. You have the capability to do whatever you want to do. You must believe.

2. You can learn by observing others too. Look at people that are good in certain areas and learn from them. Watch them and imitate what they do until you make your own moves. It will build your creativity.


Just use your imagination all the time on how you want to do something and it will create some ideas for you. But do not give up. Do not become a quitter. That is a hard habit to break once you start. Please my friend keep your chin up and guard your mind. God Bless

Answer 2

I think we all feel alone at times. Some are so bothered by the feeling they won't acknowledge it. I am older than you and I still feel isolated and alone sometimes. I met a young woman at the store. I know her mother who came to the US in the late 70's. This young lady was so shy always growing up. Her parents couldn't speak English and she worked really hard at school and didn't really have friends. She told me that now that she's in college, she isn't shy anymore, and just as important, she said she's not self-conscious. She told me that she laughs when she makes mistakes now.

You don't say what kind of dance you are getting involved in, but lots of my friends when I was young were dancers. They were obsessed with their weight and eating. Whatever you do, try to do it well but not trying to be better than everyone. Do it so you enjoy it, and hopefully love it. You will stand out by the motion of your attitude. Try to let go of thoughts of how others perceive you and open up to what you're doing and try to relate in an open way. Don't take other people's negativity personally. There are lots of unhappy people who think they'll feel better by making everyone they meet miserable. Don't let them get to you! Have fun. It's very important to have fun and to see the beauty that's all around you in the world.

Answer 3

Just like you I only have a couple of best friends. And I never could talk about my personal problems to them, simply because I'm living in a society where everyone have a friend only for companion and to share happy times. People here doesn't like listening to others personal problem, they will immediately brand you as an emo kid who whinne all the time.

I guess that's just the way people are these days. When you treat them nice, they take it. But when you're in need of someone, nobody cares. It's like we can only go to them when we're happy and in the mood for some serious partying. But when we're feeling down, we might as well stay in our room. Sad but at least to say, that's how it as at where I am right now.

And yeah, no matter where you go you'll always meet shallow people who thinks that just because they are prettier, more attractive, and has more attention that others, it makes them better off than others. You shouldn't feel inferior to these people, they are just some airheads waiting to fall. Have faith in yourself, you love dancing, go take it up. I do that do, I love guitaring and I practice it everyday no matter how badly sucks I am at it. People don't think I'm a good guitar player but I couldn't care less about what they think. What I care about is that I enjoy what I'm doing and thats all that matters.

Sometimes it takes alot of luck to meet people who can really be our friends, who can support and encourage us at whatever we're doing. It becomes more and more rare as we grow up, so never sell out. Just be yourself, have faith in yourself and don't give a damn about what others has to say about you.

Answer 4

When i was in high school, you could call me a loner. I had people hating on me. I know how you feel, but hopefully you won't let what other people think make you feel bad or give up. They aren't worth it. I know it's hard feeling like you are alone but you'll make it through. People who think they are better than someone aren't even worth being friends with. Seems to me like you can do better than them, so don't sweat it. If you do really goo in your dancng stuff than can you imagine how jealous they would be? So do your best and if you really want to be their friend, than doing your best might help. I hope this helped. Good luck!!

Answer 5

HA! I wish! When Christmas is over I'm gonna need 3 days to recuperate! I hate having to deal with all of the family stuff.

Answer 6

i fell like that sometimes too... i have a lot of friends but sometimes it feels like i can talk to none of them... but i don't really blame them 'cause i don't really like opening up to them that much... but i've learned how to though, open up i mean...
and yes, i also feel how you feel, like you can't fit in and you just wanna give up... it's just that you don't know anyone there, that's why you think you're alone... just give it a little time, maybe you'll find a couple of good friends there. just show them what you've got and don't ever think that you're small and they're better than you. you know, nobody can make you fell inferior without your consent, so just don't think that they're better than you.

Answer 7

I also felt like that through high school and was diagnosed with teenage depression, they gave me some tablets that made me feel better.

I always thought people didn't like me but once I was on these tablets, I had more confidence and I found out that heaps of people liked me.

Have you been to a doctor?

Answer 8

yep. i felt the same way all through out high school. don't worry, things will get better as you get older. high school is nothing but a popularity contest. it doesn't reflect real life. if you ever want someone to write to or something, just send me an email. [e-mail]

Answer 9

I feel that way too sometimes and it could really put me down. I really hate it when I start to feel like that.

Answer 10

Nope not no more!
Went and got me some friends!
And now im as happy as larry!