I have a question...I know its a little silly to ask, but I just want a few opinions before I really think of anything. First, I'm a female, and I'm engaged to the best guy ever. I love him so much, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him!
Recently, I've been "noticing" other girls, and seem to want certain interaction with them. I feel a need for a girl. I even had a dream about a girl and I last night, and I liked it. I told my fiancee about it, and he said that I might be bisexual. (He doesn't mind, haha. He likes it too)!
I thought I was bisexual before, and actually went as far as making out with a girl before, then I waved it off and said I wasn't. I went back to thinking it was gross for a long time, and now I can't help it. I find myself constantly thinking about being with a girl WHILE being with my fiancee at the same time.
What are some of your opinions? Do you think I'm bisexual or is it a phase?
2007-06-08 20:27:27 · 12 answers · asked by Damien's Mommy 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Btw, I'm not fully lesbian, I like guys too! I love my fiancee to death and want to spend the rest of my life with him.
2007-06-08 20:34:57 · update #1
Don't worry. Not many people are 100% straight or gay. I remember I watched a documentary on VH1, and according to a study, 84% of women have same-sex fantasies to some extent. Trust me, YOU'RE NOT ALONE! What could be greater, your fiancé likes it!
2007-06-08 21:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by Devin O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women who was engaged too asked the same exact question! :O here it is
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Is it possible to be gay w/o wanting to?
i am engaged to a man who i love very much. i will marry him and everything but most times i find myself thinking of women sexually instead of him or any man for that matter. i have never really been with a woman and dont expect to, and i would never want to marry a woman but i cant stop these thoughts. by the way, no he wouldnt let me try it out, he considers that cheating and i do too.
what the heck is my problem????
I hope this helps, search for the clues in this odd phenomina, theres some kinda of link!
2007-06-09 04:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kindled and Confused 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that you are bicurious or bisexual, but if it doesn't bother you or your fiancé too much, then I wouldn't worry about it. Being bi isn't a problem, it's just something that you are, and if you're sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, then there's no need to worry about your sexuality, just accept it and don't let it complicate anything. If this is the guy for you, and you're not about to run off with some girl, then don't sweat it. Congratulations and good luck with your future husband.
2007-06-09 04:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Iggy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Oh yeah, you can like both guys & girls...the fact that you are obsessing about being with a girl, means that you want to try it...because it first starts with thoughts & feelings - then you make a choice if you want to give in to them. Your bf is encouraging you to give in to those feelings but once you try it you might like it so much that you might rather have a girlfriend that a bf. I've heard of that happening. Just want you to have a forsight of what could happen. You could become double minded liking it one day & regreting it the next & back & forth...anyway..good luck!
bye bye
2007-06-09 12:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Danica Fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey, if your fiancee is okay with you going out with another girl while with him then you should give it a try...if you suddenly change your mind then i am sure you fiancee wont care and if you start to get tired of two people at once just chose wichever one is best or you like better!
and you can always just have a threesome!
2007-06-09 03:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by Darian H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say its a faze as you have already had these thoughts before.
I would suggest you go all the way with a girl to be for sure. But i wouldn't suggest intruducing another woman into the bedroom with you AND your man, that can lead to all sorts of problems. HOWEVER if you both fully trust eachother and can be really open to eachother then id say yes to having a woman with the two of you, just be careful.
2007-06-09 03:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mystic Magic 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You could be either bisexual or in a phase.. that would be in yourself to find out.
If your soon-2-b husband is up for it, then go with your desire for a 3sum...
I dated a Bi-Sexual girl for a while and we had some nice times with an extra bi-girl in the mix.
Let's just say, if you make your BF really mad and want him to get over it, suggest that and watch the anger VANISH, real fast. lol
2007-06-09 03:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by The::Mega 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have heard somewhere that we all have had thoughts about being with someone of the same sex. i also think that if we act on these thoughts it is ok, try once, then if you like it , it is ok , for you, but if you dont like what has happened then thats ok to. i have tried, but still like the girls
2007-06-09 04:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
natural curiosity.. or you could be just seeing if she's better than you.. or maybe you are wondering if you really want to be with your fiancee.. this could all be sub concuss nerves about getting married..
2007-06-09 03:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by trouble 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are sexually a gender you are that term, if you are picky but not totally closed off to one you are as i call it "selectivlly bi"
2007-06-09 03:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by maticulously_happy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋