he makes everything into such a competition and I end up so stressed about it, that I NEVER fun ever because I am so worried about how the outcome will be.... I am sick of it.. Don't know what to do???? Will I ever have any fun too....
2007-06-08 19:21:08 · 6 answers · asked by almostready 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get over it! You knew he was like that when you married him and you can't expect him to change now. If you don't want to feel like you are in a competition...don't do things that can be turned into one.
2007-06-08 19:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Kim W is right~ ya gotta love the perks! done right everytime!!
My husband is the same way...we can be bowling, and its like if I ain't strikin' out, he's getting all up tight. I keep tellin' him is bowling, its a game, I don't care about this! He's gotten better over the years but it always comes up. Tell your husband what I tell mine, and ignore the competitiveness after that....But to answer your last question....NO, you'll never have fun... :-)
2007-06-09 02:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by BossLady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way to help avoid the competition thing a little bit is to have the men against the women or when you are playing partners at cards, partner with the other woman's husband. That way if he doesn't win you husband won't blame you.
2007-06-09 02:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the nature of the man beast, my husband is an athlete, type A, perfectionist. Even watching the rodeo on tv he wants to tke it up the next day. Anyway its you that has to change, its your problem as its your reaction to him thats the problem. The good news is these guys slow down cause they burn out eventually. And as you well know there are the perks to these guys too!
2007-06-09 02:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by kim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something to really talk about. Sit down and have a serious conversation. Begin by asking if he wants you to honor his attitude, his competitive nature. Is it important to him that you acknowledge his approach to life? If he says yes, then ask if he recognizes that it is equally important to you that he recognize your approach to life, that he acknowledge your approach to life. If he has trouble seeing this, strongly urge counseling. If your marriage is to last and you are to feel comfortable, something has to move...either you have to fully accept him or he has to accept you. Find room for compromise and work at it. Or, if that doesn't seem possible, consider what kind of married life you want.
2007-06-09 02:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a pretty deep seeded problem, you shouldn't be that competitive with your husband.
2007-06-09 02:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋