I have always cosidered myself to be a loner. Although i get along with everyone else ( well 95% of people) I find that i am happier by myself. I talk and listen to my coworkers (more listening than talking) but i dont hang out with any of them after work. really the only two people i make an effort to talk to are my mother an my brother. those are the only two people i consider having a connection with. for all of the above reasons i thought of myself as a loner.
the reason i am not sure if i am what i have always claimed to be is because i find myself spending 60-70% of my free time helping people. whether it is my working with them to help them out, doing "behind the scenes" work, or volunteering at some charity event.
2007-06-08 19:15:15 · 6 answers · asked by lineman108 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the reason i am asking this question is the other day my pastor asked me if i really was a loner. he said that all the lones he knew sort of hide from the world and i keep tring to help it but deny being a part of it. he said that he could not think of a group that i go to.
his saying this has had me sleepless for the past week tring to figure out what i belong to.
2007-06-08 19:18:21 · update #1
yeah,your a loner.try to build a strong friendship with other people aside from your mom and sibling .it would help.
2007-06-08 19:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by mariphi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You evidently go to church, so how about the church people? Do they go out to lunch after church? If they do find out where they are going and go with them, or better yet ask God if you are a loner. Ask Him what He wants you to do. However if you are happy being the way you are, that is okay. You are a blessing helping people.
As for you listening more than talking that is wonderful! As the Bible says,"be slow to speak and quick to listen" A lot of people talk too much and don't listen.
You are not alone when you are helping people working with them doing behind the scenes, volunteering. When you do it as unto the Lord you will be Blessed.
Loners are alone, they do not want or cannot be around people for different reasons.
If you feel inadequite or self conscious, or inferrior in different situations, ask the Lord to help you. He knows everything about you and He will help you.
Just pray and a ask Him and then thank Him that He will show/tell you. Don't lose sleep over it. If you want to change then one of the first things you do is Stop saying you are a loner, because you have convinced yourself you are. So start saying you are not a loner, You like to be around people and get involved in conversations. The bible says " call those things that be not as tho' they were"
Which means call into being what you want.
Jesus said, " when you pray Believing, doubt not in your heart..........you can have what you say".
Do you spend anytime talking to the Lord? reading the bible? This is how God will speak to you, also he speaks to you through other people.
As a matter of fact I believe God has answered you through me right now, if you receive it.
2007-06-09 02:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by elptl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you just are a very good listener, a skill most people leave behind in 2nd grade, and you have alot on your mind. what i mean is you like thinking and sometimes people dont always connect with your thoughts. but also you should get one good friend. try, k? maybe someone who helps out in the same places as you would be a great person to be friends with. then you can go out for coffee and just talk about the volunteerwork and the weather until a stronger bond builds. and if you dont wanna make an effort becuz you are happier that way, then go right ahead. no one will stop you. as long as you are always nice and not ignorant, then all will go well. :)
2007-06-09 02:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are a loner. And your pastor shouldn't be suggesting such a thing. You spend 60-70% of your free time helping others then you are not alone for all that long. I think you are a good person for helping others as much as you do. Don't consider that you are a loner. God bless you.
2007-06-09 02:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe 'loner' is too strong of a word to describe you. I too prefer alone time to social time, but I too get along with almost everyone, and I too get great satisfaction out of helping people, listening to their problems, etc., but I don't enjoy 'hanging out'. Some of us simply aren't as social as the rest. I've always fancied the thought that some people are social because of insecurity, i.e., they feel the need to be 'accepted' or 'approved' by others, and that's why they pursue social activity. Maybe. But it's all good, nonetheless.
2007-06-09 02:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by lejosmcoy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you are not a loner. Just like me you have a lot of friends but go home and relax rather then pretened every thing is fine.
2007-06-13 00:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋