One week ago my husband went camping with his friend(male) whom I dont really like. My husband called me from the mountains to talk to me, and his friend was yelling and cussing him out the whole time we were on the phone, telling him to get the *&%$ off the phone with me. so he did and said hed call back later. The next time I heard from him he told me he was comming to get his stuff and I needed to find my own way to get mine and our 2 kids stuff out of the house. He couldnt take it anymore, he was done. two days later he says he made a big mistake and wants us to come back.
2007-06-08 19:10:36 · 16 answers · asked by J H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my question is why was his friend telling him to get off the phone with you. And what was the reason behind his wanting to break it off with you?
That is something only you know the answer to, if you want to work things out, then stay with him. If not, tell him to leave.
~faith
2007-06-08 19:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs to understand this isn't high school where you listen to your friends that don't have girlfriends. this is called real life, and you aren't a girl friend... you are a wife.
how can he call himself a man to kick his wife and 2 kids out. Big Mistake...No. It's HUGE. It's larger than HUGE.
If you love him, forgive him. But, put him through some hell and make him mother f***ing beg to come back home and have the HONOR of living with you and your children.
Shame on him! I am disgusted that a married man with two kids would listen to some guy while camping....unless this is BrokeBack Mountain, Part II.
Good Luck.
2007-06-08 19:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Allison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOY, YOU ARE MARRIED TO AN IMMATURE MAN WHO IS EASILY PERSUADED...it seems.
It looks like his friend's influence had him leaving home~perhaps he was complaining/venting to him about home life~and then thought about it later and realized he wanted his family more.
You really need to move slow on coming back. Learn and resolve if my suggestion is what happened...OR WHAT MADE HIM THINK HE WANTED TO BREAK AWAY IN THE FIRST PLACE...AN AFFAIR? TIRED OF HOME LIFE? Get him to talk to you openly (do not argue with him, let him talk) and don't you judge him...just be a real friend and listen. When he give you and excuse/explanation, you need to help him evaluate if he has thought of leaving before he went away with his friend....IN OTHER WORDS, GET HIM TO THINK FOR HIMSELF AND NOT USE HIS FRIENDS THINKING.
You need to be REALLY SURE BEFORE YOU PUSH AND PULL THE KIDS AROUND, BEFORE YOU GO BACK HOME. He may envy the friend's freedom lifestyle and was influenced to gain it for himself. Is the friend divorced? Remind your hubby that MISERY LOVES COMPANY!!
2007-06-08 19:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a dick...you better lay down some ground rules before you stick with this guy....do you want him threatening not just you,,,but your kids safety and security again? sounds like there is some serious issues to discuss before acting like nothing is wrong.
i would be really concerned about how "thoughtful" he was about your two children,,,,ready to kick all of you out in two days?
2007-06-08 19:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by claudia_csn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dam..is ur husband gay!!! Why the hell would some man be yelling at ur husband...honey that dont even sound right...bells are going off with this one....he might be a undercover homosexual, and dont want anyone to know, and just using u as a cover up....I guess talk to him, and if he does that sh*t again....let him stay gone....lol...another man, you dont know..yelling at ur husband....yeah....he's gay!!
2007-06-08 19:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by beerdrinker3423 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he abandoned you and your children i wouldn't make it so easy for him to come back home. Make him feel it for about a week so he won't do this again he needs to see what he did, most importantly to your children you dont want him putting your children through this every time "he can't take it anymore" marriage is a challenge and it is too easy to feel that way
2007-06-08 19:16:22 · answer #6 · answered by mom_in_love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you rely on someone who would turn his back on his family?without warning,,taking him back without making him realize he has a family n responsibitities would just show him ur weak n he can walk all over you.u should, try to wrk it out for the kids but tell him how u feel..n that the next time your not going to take him back.
2007-06-08 19:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to be a show off and then realize how much u mean 2 him........ if u give him a second chance lay down rules
2007-06-08 19:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by rikellsgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may be bi-sexual...What exactly is his relationship with this guy? Why would he allow the friend to dictate to him? Why after the camping trip was he then wanting to work things out with you? I hope you haven't gone back to him. You and your children need and deserve stability!!!!!
2007-06-08 19:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by RT 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, forgive him, but you need to set boundries. He's not allowed to be around this person
2007-06-08 19:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋