my bf ex-wife just had twins from a other man the kids want them to get back together what should i do,?

Question

they have 3 children and they really want there mom and dad togethere i know that he really love her but she moved on with her life he said that he love me to i just need someone help dont know what to do i love him and his kids will they grow out of this or should i move on

Answer 1

This is quite normal for kids to want. This is because it is the societal held belief that children should be nurtured within a home made up of them and their natural parents. Be patient as they will grow up and understand that things are not black and white in adult relationships.
If it is a big problem perhaps relationship counselling for you all to help them adjust would benefit. As you say he "still loves her........", this is because they have 3 children and share 'history'. Now she has had children to another person this confirms that their parents will not get back together.
Talk to them gently and confirm that their Mum and Dad love them and will be there for them as they grow up.
Much of their understanding is reliant on their ages and what their homelife was like when Mum and Dad were together. Don't become involved in any negative opinions about their mother as this only confuses them all the more.
Two constants in our life that cannot be changed is who our mother and father are.
Good luck being a step-parent is one of the most difficult roles for anyone and often it is a no win situation.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Start by asking the Dad what he wants. Then you decide if your believe him and go with your gut.

All kids want their parents together. That is normal. They must learn that they cannot have it all in this world. You need to deal with Dad only.

It is normal to have feelings for a spouse, and not be able to have them. The ex has moved on and so should you two. Just make sure he is moving on WITH YOU!

Answer 4

"my ex bf is tom selleck's twin.. looks exactly like tom selleck.. built,face,hieght everything. sooo he doesnt look like the typical gay. he looks very manly. lol" For a pretty open person, you're not so open are you? The typical gay is supposed to be femme? VERY INTERESTING. Anyways, yes, I think he's gay or bisexual. And I don't find it absurd at all. I don't know the whole story on how your ex got divorced BECAUSE YOU TOLD HIM to...But do you think your home wrecking ability is the true cause for him to divorce? Or perhaps he realized that he likes men? Or perhaps something else? Other than this, I think you aren't that open because you're stressing about whether he was gay, or is gay. I mean, does it matter if he is gay or bi? If you truly love him, you wouldn't be stressing, more like wondering. And from the tone of this question, I feel like you are worried that this whole time you were together with a gay/bi man. -_-

Answer 5

I guess it depends a lot on your boyfriend's feelings for his ex. But personally, if there is a chance this family could be reunited, I wouldn't want to get in the way of that. Do you think they would get back together if you weren't in the picture? If the answer might be yes, I think you should back off and see what happens. Maybe their relationship is beyond repair and he will end up staying with you, but maybe these kids will get their family back. I don't envy you, you are in a hard position. Good luck!

Answer 6

If he loves you and shes moved on then you have nothing to worry about. Its not weird for kids to want their parents together... its normal. But the parents need to sit down with them and have them understand that that cant happen and explain why. ya know. I think that would be best for them. I think they will grow out of it but they also need a alittle talking to. They'll stop once they realize and understand that that happens and its not going to change.

Answer 7

the parents of those kids need to sit down with them and explain to them that they are in love with other people but they are still going to be their parents and love them and be there but now they will have other people to care for them too. You should stay out of it because if your man does not have the nerve to tell these kids the truth it is better you find out now and leave before you are attached to those kids

Answer 8

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Answer 9

it normal for kids to want there parents back together, but
she has moved on so has he,but he need to let the kids
know that he and the mother have lives and loves of there
own and then go from there, but he need to address this
with them.

Answer 10

ya know its normal for children to want their parens together.... this man must of loved his wife at one time as they ahve 3 children together..and if he wanted to be with ehr ..he would be... as far as chldren go..its not fair of you to even think about walking away from them now because of his ex...the children are the ones who loose either way..their parents are divorced and they want then together..if youw aas to walk out of their life now..then theyd stillw ant to see you more than likely ...your b/f needs to tlak to his children and make them understand theya re not getting back together..that they love eachother because theyw as married so many years and because they had the children..but thats as far as it will come to getting together... and you nee dto talk to your b/f and tell him how your feeling sweetie..i know its very hard to understand and hard to deal with..but if he loves you then he needs to reassure you that he and his ex are finished ok?? good luck and a hug sweetie...GOD bless