Is anyone else pissed off at their husbands???

Question

So, Ok....my husband TRIES to be know it all. (like most men)..We have a one year old son. I am a stay home mom, so in essence i have created a schedule for feeding, napping, etc. I have been sticking to it...dinner at 5:30-6, plays, snack, bedtime around 8...so far so good. BUT tonight, my husband had this IDEA that he should take our son out for a walk...well, like most babies, movement puts them to sleep, esepecially when they havent slept since 2 this afternoon. so, of course, after dinner, at 6:30, he took him for a walk and he TOOK A NAP for an HOUR...so, of cousre, when he came home, he didnt want to go to sleep until after 9...AND of cousre, our son ONLY wants ME to put him to bed....He also does it while i am feeding him..OH you should try, this, that....DO i go to HIS job and start "trying to make things easier for him???"
anyone else have these annoyances?? thanks for listening to me vent!!

Answer 1

i know exactly how u feel,i have to kids,a 2 yrs old ans a 4 yr old,and i'm also a stay home mom.after having a stressful day with them,the best part for us is when the kids are sleeping,that when we feel relaxed.sometimes my husband will come home late and start kissing them up,trying to wake them and thats like after 12 a.m when he gets home.and then i'll have to get up and make hot chocolate and they also wants me to put them to bed,after having a long day with them u don't need to be doing no over times.i get mad to and i will leave them with him and go and sit in the bathroom long until they start giving him a hard time,and he will be yelling hurry up,and i will say,take a little taste of what i have to be going through all day,then he understood me.good luck,i don'tblame u for being mad.

Answer 2

It's really lovely that your husband wants to spend time with your son, and be involved with him. I know you're the one with him most of the time and know him a little better, but your husband IS a parent too, and I'm guessing that by working he's keeping the three of you well fed and sheltered, though he's rather be with the two of you. Discuss your problems with him, work out a routine between the two of you. I'm an early chidhood nurse, and I see so many women who are left to do the parenting and the house keeping by themselves with no fatherly input at all - fathers who come home from work, watch TV and go to bed and do nothing else. Your husband is trying to do his best - work together and you'll be giving your child the best upbringing possible.

Answer 3

My almost ex used to pull this (**& too... I think it was him wanting to have input into the raising of the child - I'd bet most of the parenting is done by you from what you've written and he was probably trying to assert his parenting also.

Having said that - why don't you try talking to him about how you appreciate the break, his effort, and his being a good father, but would appreciate it if he took your child during the playtime / snack period.. he could feed snack on the way and if the child goes to sleep, well all the better... and this would give you time in the evening just for you!

Answer 4

R u complaining abt ur husband? I think he as a father of that kid has every right to take him out or do stuffs with him..... and u really dont expect him to play during play time and take the kid for a walk while its walk time etc. He can do it only when he can. And his work.... he should handle.... ur house work... u can handle... but the kid should be handle by both parents.... and u cannt really put life into a proper timetable.
And oh yeah..... looks like u want the kid to concenrate only on u.... "AND of cousre, our son ONLY wants ME to put him to bed....He also does it while i am feeding him."

This can be really bad for ur son to want u always.... teach him, his dad is also avaialble.

Answer 5

I think that you should be thankful you have a husband willing to spend time with his child. There are many fathers out there who would rather not take their child on a walk. What is worse, a dead beat dad or a father who interrupts the schedule at times? It sounds to me like he is just trying to be involved. He spends all day at work and wants some time with his child. Is that really so bad? However, I do understand your frustration. I also have a child who will only let me put her to bed. My advice, pick and chose your battles. If he starts ignoring you and your children, then you can get upset.

Answer 6

Its good to vent. However, you should let your husband enjoy his son. I go through it, my husband is out 21 days each month. He comes home and it all gets out of wack. But, I would never complain when he sees her much less than I do.
Being a mother, you have to be flexable. As far as babies go, what works one week may not the next. So, chill and let them have some male bonding.

Answer 7

are our husbands related? lol.... yes I've been there. My husband believes that his way regarding discipline, schedules, feedings, etc are the right ways. And if I disagree well I just don't know what I'm talking about. It does make me very very upset at times and I do vent... a lot!!!! But I realize that he cares and just wants to be a part of things. He really misses out on everything we get to experience as stay at home moms. Just remember, the terrible twos are coming and you will be sooooooo thankful to scoot them out for walks at all times!!!!

Answer 8

I understand where you are coming from, I know how the schedule is, very important to a little one, but I can also see where your hubby is coming from, he works all day and wants time with his son and wants to give you a break. I think you should look beyond the irritance and relish the break he is giving you. Take the time to take a bubblebath and relax.

Answer 9

Have you talked to him about the problems he causes when he butts in to it? The child needs the routine, that is for sure. Sit daddy down and tell him all about it. Ask that he goes along with your plan, because sounds like you have it down real well. Tell him you appreciate his input, but insist that what you are doing works. Don't let him get away with messing up the plan. Ask him to take the child for a walk when it won't mess everything up. Explain it to him like you did in your question, you said it very well there.

Answer 10

MAKE UP YOUR MIND THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS THE CHILD'S FATHER, HE HAS EVERY RIGHT IN THE WORLD TO TAKE HIM OUT FOR A WALK EVEN IF YOU THINK IT IS OFF SCHEDULE, BE GLAD HE ADORES HIS SON, HE ALREADY WANTS TO BOND AND DO THE FATHER AND SON THING--THAT IS A VERY BEAUTIFUL THING, I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL- MY BABY BOY WAS ON HIS CERTAIN SCHEDULE TOO, I'LL BET THE BABY SURVIVED IT DIN'T HE? LOL--SORRY THIS WRITING IS BIG--I AM NOT YELLING AT YOU.