Me and a family member had some differences in the past because of here say. We never confronted eachother on it. We are on speaking terms now, but we use to be closer like sisters and i miss that bond that i had with her. last year she told me first that she was pregnant. she's due in a minute. I'm buying her some clothes for the baby and i bought a congrats card. but i don't know what to say. I was thinking about saying something like I know we had our feud in the past, but we older now. I'm proud of her and that I'm there for her i'm only a phone call a way when she need me and that i love her. do that sound okay
2007-06-08 15:10:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't try to buy her back with too much love. It's wrong and misleading. I don't think you realize you are doing it as bad as I make it sound. The best thing you can do, is be there for her. But, I wouldn't suggest you openly offer yourself every second. Don't you have anything else you need to be doing? What happened in the past, is in the past.
2007-06-08 15:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by I hate Comcast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an excellent start. Remember though that the ultimate test of your resolve will be what you do, not what you say. Talk's cheap. Are you willing to make time for her? A baby is a big deal....a huge deal. The point being in a few weeks your relative won't remember what her life was like before this baby and you will have to come to her, not vice-versa. I will say this; if you make promises (I am not saying that you've done this.) keep them. Years from now this rift between you two will seem like a distant memory.
2007-06-08 22:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Hector D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds cool to put in a card, but you can't really force the feelings and bond that you had in the past to happen right now. Hopefully, you will both be able to work back to that, but you just have to be there for her and show her that you are there for her (the card might help get across the thought of it all).
2007-06-08 22:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got the right idea. Something along the lines of "I know we've had our differences, but I couldn't be happier to have grown closer to you today. I am so proud of you and I want you to know that I'll be your shoulder to lean on whenever you need it." Sounds good to me.
2007-06-08 22:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by victoria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with her and explain how you've been feeling down because you're not that close. Demand that she listens. My older brother faded from me after my Bad Car Accident.. he made me take blame for wrecking the car so his girlfriend wouldn't get in trouble.. (she was driving) SO yeah.. just explain to her and hope for the best
2007-06-08 22:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by Brandino Marino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple...actions speak louder than words! Show her you care by doing nice things for her.
2007-06-08 22:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by chocolatebabycakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say lets leave our past behind us and handle life like mature adults........like sisters getting over a fight...ill always be there 4 ya
2007-06-08 22:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by puppy dog 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave the past in the past, don't even bring it up, just let her know your there for her by telling that to her face
2007-06-08 22:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah- just tell her to let by gones be by gones and that you still love her
2007-06-08 22:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by cabbagepatchgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it sounds quite good, and will let her know u don't want to loose what u had before.. and that u really care for her..
2007-06-08 22:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋