and he promises to change and he doesnt . is it time to leave.
2007-06-08 14:28:28 · 14 answers · asked by Esperanza 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's was time to leave a long time ago. And I think you know this.
2007-06-08 14:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by manybagolike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 13 years you both probably need some change. But the question is this Are you BOTH willing to give in to each others needs? If you are seriously asking the world this question then you haven't talked to the people closest to you. Number 1 your husband. You may leave and then find out that the grass is not greener on the other side then it will be to late for either of you to change. Go to him with an open heart pour it out to him then make your decision based on his response.
2007-06-08 21:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by russbillen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he need to change?
Maybe the problem is YOU.
Did it ever occur to you that maybe he says I'll change to shut you up.
Do him a favor and leave. Understand though that men over 30 are pretty set in their ways and really are not going to be molded to your view of whatever.
The chances are quite good that you will end up alone.
2007-06-08 21:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what change you expect as there is such a thing as compromise. If it's because of the toothpaste being squeezed wrong or not putting laundry in the hamper if you want it you can compromise. If it is on more serious issues then you have to rethink all your options.
2007-06-08 21:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by genaddt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending upon what it is he is supposed to be changing....
if it is something major, such as abuse, cheating, drugs or the like, then I say you should have left years ago.
if it is something trivial, like passing gas in front of your mother, or teaching the kids to do rude things, well, get over it.
it just depends upon what you want changed. Men are just children in grown up bodies. Gotta love 'em, but can't change 'em.
2007-06-08 22:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't really change. Have you tried accepting him as he is? See others as a mirror of what you like and don't like about yourself. Change you and you will change him.
2007-06-08 22:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably time to leave. People can change, but only if they really want to.
2007-06-08 21:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he didnt change b4 he aint gonna change now. ma if you are unhappy move on how many more years is it gona take, its hard when you rare in love, but if you aint happy you need to do something cause he aint (right)good luck...and go be happy
2007-06-08 21:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by justme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noone should have to change for another. There is only compromises and that's it.
2007-06-08 21:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would VERY seriously consider it if I were you, maybe you should think about a trial separation.
2007-06-08 21:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋