be the right thing to do???
2007-06-08 13:51:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON'T be a homewrecker.
If this guy wants to be with someone else, then he needs to be a man and tell his wife he wants out.
My guess is he just wants to fool around -- you know, have his cake and eat it too. Most guys who carry on about how they are unhappy, but they never leave, is only because they are dirty low down dogs who want to cheat.
Stay away from people like this.
If this is your personal situation...be a man and tell her. No one deserves to be cheated on.
2007-06-08 14:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37 and I have heard this one a hundred times. He is unhappy because sex is not like what it used to be and he wants something new and fresh in other words his relationship is stale. This guy should figure out what he truly wants and be honest with himself, his wife, and the woman he now likes. Only one man I know actually separated from his wife. If he has kids young or adult somehow the ex wife will always be involved in his life. It is a pain in the *** and I wouldn't deal with someone else's problems. If this woman is single with no kids there is no way I would take on this man's problems. I'm sure this girl can find a nice single guy to date. Do yourself a big favor don't get involved.
2007-06-08 14:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by The Fabulous L V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. This guy was going through a divorce and started giving me serious hints that he wanted to start something with me. I didn't really respond or reciprocate it because he seemed back and forth about his feelings toward his marriage - in the midst of the divorce, he and his wife talked about working it out, but then, she went off on him again, and left. He finally divorced, but now is acting really standoffish toward me and said she's back in his life. It's confusing to me. She was on some kind of meds that made her erratic, but still.. She was awful to him and said some really hateful things - I could tell he was very hurt. I don't think the meds could be 100% to blame for that.
Anyway, I really wouldn't trust him unless the divorce papers are drawn and she's out of his life. Talk to him about why he's unhappy with the marriage, and if he is, ask why he's staying (cause Lord knows I'd like to know why men stay in these marriages when they're obviously unhappy). In my case, I've just tried to distance myself from the guy. Now that I'm giving him the cold shoulder, I can tell he's agitated about it. Tough luck, I say - you could've ended the unhappiness for good, but you decided not to and lost that chance with me. I take some joy knowing he's suffering in a bad marriage, because he made me suffer, leading me on one minute, and evading me the next. Don't waste your time on a man who doesn't have the balls to go for what he wants all the way.
2007-06-08 14:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it, he wants a cheap thrill more than likely. Otherwise he would divorce her, then start looking for
another woman. The right thing to do is tell him, ask your
wife if it's alright and have her call me. I have had this same
thing happen to me, but I know that his sweet wife was unaware that she was supposedly going to divorce him. I didn't mention any of this to her. I told him I felt sorry for his wife having to put up with him and he never said anything to me again. He probably is after another woman. Those type don't usually change.
2007-06-08 14:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my questions would be is why is he unhappy? Is he putting in any effort to make a successful marriage or is he expecting the other half to do it 100% of the work?
Second thought is, if he decides to see the other girl, give his wife the basic respect and let her know, dont be an @ss and cheat. Third, I would not want to be the other girl, because if he is willing to leave his wife, who he commited to through good and bad, I see the same cycle repeat itself with the next gir.
2007-06-08 14:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is very unhappy then he should consider leaving his wife...you know sometimes the grass seems greener on the other side...when in fact it may not be.....This married guy should definitely discuss his unhappiness with his wife....or possibly seek counseling....
But, to run from one woman to another woman to seek happiness is not a very good idea.
Good Luck
2007-06-08 14:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ebonee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right thing for him to do would be to tell his WIFE he's not happy. If SHE can't make him happy then he needs to file for DIVORCE and get out of the marriage before he pulls his dick out and puts it in someone else.
Men like this are the reason the world is so screwed up. They need to be FAITHFUL and follow their vows, or NOT GET MARRIED!
2007-06-08 14:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-08 00:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by pontonio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO. IF THIS MAN IS MARRIED AND UNHAPPY, THEN HE NEEDS TO TRY AND SORT OUT WHAT IS WRONG IN THE MARRIAGE. HE AND HIS WIFE AND DECIDE WHAT IS RIGHT FOR THEM TO DO.
IF YOU ARE THE ONE HE HAS LIKED FOR A LONG TIME, THE RIGHT THING TO DO IS STAY OUT OF IT. THIS IS HIS MARRIAGE. THERE IS AN OLD SAYING.. IF I CAN'T BE HAPPY IN MY MARRIAGE THEN I CAN BE HAPPY [HERE] KNOW WHAT I MEAN? SO BE VERY CAREFUL. MARRIAGE IS A PRECIOUS THING TO GOD. ADULTERY IS DANGEROUS. HOPE THIS HELPS
2007-06-08 14:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing for him to do would be to grow up. Why did he marry his wife in the first place?
2007-06-08 13:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋