First of all, I absolutely adore my wife, wouldn't trade her for anything. Over the last few years she's been hanging out with women much older than her, like old enough to be her mother. She claims that she has started menopause (she's only 44) falls asleep in front of the tv every night by 10 has trouble getting up in the morning and is always tired. She's content with sitting in her chair doing puzzles for hours and never wants to do anything fun that requires physical activity (no she's not fat)
We used to have sex all the time and would go for hours (really) now she's just too tired. I bring her gifts, flowers, compliment her. Just the other day we were watching a movie and I stated how great she would look in a dress one of the actresses had on. Just a low cut evening gown, not anything trashy. She say's I would never wear something like that.
What do I do, I want the fire back.
2007-06-08 13:26:44 · 11 answers · asked by Tom S 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The tiredness can come from a simple iron deficiency. This is very common in women. Iron deficiency can cause tiredness, feeling low and listless, not feeling rested even after a normal amount of sleep, some hair loss, rapid heart beat. A rapid heartbeat can also be a sign of perimenopause/ or menopause, so that's why she might be thinking it's menopause!
Feeling tired all the time can also be because of an underproduction of the thyroid (hypothyroidism).
Both conditions can be very easily treated!
Your wife should get a medical check-up. When was her last one? She should get a pyhysical from her primary care physician and the usual annual tests from her OB/GYN.
Good luck!
2007-06-08 14:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you two need some serious talk time. Unless she is willing to watch her marriage fall apart, she may want to know how you are feeling. Maybe she is feeling old although 44 is certainly not old. Buy her the dress if you have to, plan a night out somewhere fun and sexy or take her away for a fun weekend. Plan some fun activities and start trying to get her involved in things. I think she's in a rut and maybe a good jolt or two will help her out of it. You sound like a great husband.
2007-06-08 20:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are easily influenced by others. It may be that way for her. Try spending more time with her doing activities like camping, picnics, going to the beach, etc. Buy her something sexy and DON'T FORGET to tell her how much she turns you on and how desirable she is. She just may be feeling unattractive.
As far as her being tired, that may be a symptom of something else. I'm not trying to scare you in any way, but my mother, at the age of 48 got cancer. Before her diagnosis, she was tired all the time, her sex drive diminished to nothing and she slept a lot. You may want to consider getting her a complete physical as it could be countless things why she's feeling this way.
Just for your reading:
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=39578
2007-06-08 20:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the main problem is with her hanging out with women that are much older than her. If you have a friend that is married, and they are about you & your wife's age, maybe you can invite them over. Could be that your wife & your friends can become friends, and get things back to normal.
2007-06-08 20:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Joe S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has gotten comfortable with everything in her life and there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe you should take to a high school reunion where she can see other people her age that is still living.
2007-06-08 20:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you buy her spectacles and a rocking chair and then play out a dirty granny fantasy. JUST kidding! I don't know what you should do. Maybe start wearing Grandpa clothes and see if she gets turned on?
2007-06-08 20:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she should have a doctor appointment to address her physical issues. Then work on her mind and heart to warm her and have her turn to you in love. Communicate about your thoughts and feelings, asking her to do the same.
2007-06-08 21:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her how you feel. menapause is right around the corner for me. what i wouldn't give for a caring husband. you should tell her you don't need to go for hours...you don't have to stay active 24 / 7 but tell her you would like to take a walk with her.
2007-06-08 20:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may be ill. Has she seen a doctor lately?
2007-06-08 20:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by Ronin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
TAKE HER SHOPPING FOR NICE CLOTHES, HAVE A DOCTOR CHECK HER FOR TIREDNESS. THIS COULD BE TEMPORARY. GOING TO A WOMEN'S SPA MIGHT LIFT HER UP, OR A NICE VACATION.
2007-06-08 20:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋