Well, here is a good one..to try and figure out phsychologicaly why this man acts the way he does. (forgive if i misspelled)..anyway..this guy(husband actually) got upset at me and is harassing my friends by telling them the ''bad'' habits i have and that i am not the person they think i am. My friends actually know me better than my husband does cause they actually want to know me! But since i live with this creep he wants to ''get'' me by hanging out my ''dirty'' laundry which i will tell you aint that dirty..haha. just typical stupid stuff. no shockers that my friends would be horrified by. Why do you think he does this? What is going on in his pea brain? Can anyone tell me! I know he is insecure..duh..but what is the deep rooted problem. How do i address it? thank you for your time and help.
2007-06-08 13:22:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The deep rooted problem is in the relationship. If you talk to him and behave towards him like you did in this question, then there is your answer. You give him no respect. Nor does he in turn give you any. Why not get counseling, separated or divorced? All sound healthy to me rather than what you two are doing to each other.
2007-06-08 13:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by sashali 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell darlin, but this guy just plain don't like you. His behavior sucks. Your friends are wondering how long you are going to put up with his being a rude child. Next time he pulls this stunt, get up and say"I don't have time for this crap" and leave. Even if you have to take a cab home. When you get there, start going through your closets and drawers and throw out anything thats old andworn. Next day get boxes from the grocery and start packing. It might take you a while, but carry it out if you want to remain a human being. Otherwise , you'll end up a beat dog.
2007-06-08 13:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can know what's in another person's mind unless he tells you. Obviously, your marriage is in trouble. Try to sit down with him and discuss the problem. If he refuses to discuss it with you, suggest going to counseling. If this doesn't work, I'm afraid you're headed for divorce.
2007-06-08 13:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me he must be jealous..of you..of your friends..otherwise why would he be telling them all your crap? You don't talk about him as though you love him. So why are you still together if you are both feeling this way....trying to hurt each other. Maybe you should both sit down and work out what you want from each other and if you are able to get it from each other ...and if not be healthy and get out now.
2007-06-08 13:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by DyShaNic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does me he is insecure. And you are sensitive to his feelings, aren't you? Why? Pull out pieces of his dirty laundry next time and see how he likes it!
2007-06-08 13:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's the time for you to move on, unless you like his insecurity thus you can be more like a "controlling role" in the family.
2007-06-12 12:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the people above, it is definitely based in insecurity. In my opinion it seems that he is afraid of his own secrets and, because most people reflect their own lives upon others, assumes that you must be afraid of your own secrets. You two are obviously very different people.
2007-06-08 13:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by hitako47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a easy one....You must have been the one who broke things off......its easier to be the dumper than the dumpee.....He's hurt and the only way he going to feel satisfied is if your hurt.....Let it ride.....Hopfully he finds a girlfriend soon so he leaves you alone.
Good luck
2007-06-08 13:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by tami1lmt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is too small for you and he feels it. And because he can't grow in your eyes he tries to bring you on his level. Typical for
worthless person.
2007-06-08 13:45:54 · answer #9 · answered by O K M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
document his behavior and get an attorney - lose the guy before he gets violent.
2007-06-08 13:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋