Why do some men feel the need to save women?

Question

Almost a hero's complex?

Answer 1

It isnt for anything more than a father feels the need to save his children. As the kids grow older they resent being helped by their parents to, so maybe woment resent it when they are in need of proving their independence and a man offers to help and ruins that independent feeling.

There are built in actions resulting from a maternal , fraternal, paternal viewpoint. It is more of a reaction than doing it to look any certain way.

Women resent ir or love it so it balances out.

Answer 2

I agree whole-heartedly with Robinson, it may be based in a complex of some sort but do not make the mistake that those are the man's intentions. It is not the idea that "I'm a man, I must save the weak woman." We, as men have only the best intentions in this degree. If I was in a position to save someone I would consider it to be simply the thing to do. An Altruism

Answer 3

Yeah hero complex maybe, perhaps watching too many movies. It's a guy thing, you wouldn't understand :) Ok maybe you would understand.

First off, saving a person's life is exciting: kinda like in the movies. Everyone wished they could do it but few really get the chance.
#2) When you're a guy, saving a woman is much more ''exciting'' than saving a guy because if you save the woman you can have a [sexual] relationship with her, also like in the movies especially James Bond types of movies. Can't have that with a guy.
3) It's in our blood to be [or act like] heroes. I think it's one of the effects of testosterone. You want excitement and danger.

Answer 4

Saving people is awesome.

I think some guys are in love with the concept of altruism- I know I am. (Seems like it's romantic or something.)

When it comes to actually doing something I have a difficult time being proactive, though- the few times I've mustered up some courage to go ahead and do something, they always seem to flop.

EDIT: WHOA. I just saw "J" posting something about how men would only save a woman because they wanted her body.

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Even if I WAS sexually interested in someone I was trying to "save," the probability that I would act on it is 0, because I'm a failure like that. (I would say something to the effect of "no problem," look back once, and then walk away.)

Just wanted to point out that some people actually want to help with GOOD intentions.

The whole concept of how "good" that good is is debatable, but you get the premise.

Answer 5

Lots of different reasons, I'm sure. Sometimes it could be to gain the woman's affection (sexual or not). Sometimes because it makes *them* feel good about themselves (how many men would let another man help them in a "hero" sort of way). It makes them feel strong and powerful. Sometimes it could be that they think women are so weak that they need a big strong manly manly man around to help them change those light bulbs and kill those scary spiders. In a way, to belittle the woman, whether intentional or not. Sometimes it could simply be that they just want to help someone in need (in general, men do tend to be physically stronger than women).

Or do you mean "save" as in "save her from her wretched life"? Well, probably the same reasons as above, except for the last one. Some men also like to control like that. But I think it is something ingrained in men most of the time. They have an instinct for protecting and saving and providing. The same way most women have an instinct to provide comfort, and like to take care of people. So many times I've seen women go to a guy's home and start cleaning up, cooking, and giving the place a "woman's touch". Everyone likes to feel valued in one way or another. It often ends up being in a traditional sort of way.
And women also like to save men from their wretched lives. I don't think there's anything wrong with it if the intentions are good. I don't mind a man offering to help me with things, as long as he believes me when I say, "no thanks, I can take care of it." And doesn't give me that "you silly woman" look ;)

I wanted to add that I gladly accept men's help when I need it (or when I just want it, for my own selfish reasons... strrrrroke that ego). But there are times when I really do want to do something myself because it boosts my own ego to do it, or I want it done my own way. Don't worry Baby, I'll let you save me in other ways ;)

Answer 6

It's been this way for thousand of years.
While women stood in caves, taking care of babies, men were out, hunting for food. They would also protect the women.
This is why, theoretically, men like to protect/save women.
It's a special feeling. A wonderful feeling.

Answer 7

You must not be in a burning building, being robbed/beaten, or attacked by an animal right now. Maybe we should fire all the construction men, firemen, and police officers, so you can live in the woods and fend for yourself. How do you think that would work out?

Answer 8

Its their job thats what they do rescue the fair damsel. Men are different in thought as well as behavior.When women need to talk youll notice a man will give you some kind of answer to "your problem" when we just want someone to listen to us. We just need to learn how men listen and then behave so we can do what we need to.

Answer 9

I don't know...but I have the same thing towards men, I always fall for the "bad boys" that need to be "saved" . Its just the nature of the person.

Answer 10

Sometimes it's more about control. The guy sees a woman in need and he's right there to fix everything, then, after the woman begins to feel safe and secure, he begins telling her how to talk, think, dress, look and how to do everything else in her life, reminding her constantly that before him she was nothing. Sounds extreme, but I've seen it in relationships in different degrees at times, but more than once.