heres the deal, i got married this march, things were nt exactly perfect my bf seriosuly injurerd his back and had been taking serious painkillers for the last 3 years and has gotten me addicted along the way. i am in the process of getting of of them but its not easy, we both need each other for support. but do u think we are just too reliant on each other? i feel like we ar enot indepedent from each other but we sort of bring the other down. i mean he does a lot of good things for me and i do the same but we argue a lot lately, i dont feel very happy anymore and i met aother guy at work who remind me of how it felt to be happy, not sayig i want to be with this guy, what do i do?
2007-06-08 13:16:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's too soon to give up. Too many people are too quick to throw in the towel.
Do not let this other man tempt you. You are a married woman now and have taken vows. You need to honor them as well as your husband.
I commend you for trying to get off the pain killers. It is not an easy thing to do.
You are starting to get your life on track. Don't give up so soon. Go to counseling before you make any decisions.
2007-06-08 13:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking the easy way out just shows what kind of character you have. And you can't blame any one person for your own addictions. A marriage isn't just a committed relationship; its a family. Whether you have children or not. You're that person's best friend. You're a life line, so to speak.
The guy at work shouldn't even be considered in the picture, just a distraction. You both deserve happiness, but you have to decide if your marriage is worth it. If it just needs some work, then why not work on it?
2007-06-08 20:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kris W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just got married in march of 2007 right? Let me ask you something, why did you marry this person? I'm sure that there is love there somewhere even if you can't see it right now. Stop making excusses for why things are the way the are. You made a vow and you should make every attempt to stick to it. This guy you meet that reminded you of the good old days has done exactly what he was suppose to do...Remind you. You love this man that your married to you just miss the fun that you had together. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and fix it. Save it, make it last, true love never dies. Take care of yourself and your mate. He needs you just like you need him.
2007-06-08 22:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your married. Deal with the marriage first. Some guy at work is just a distraction from your core issue - the marriage. Sometimes marriages are tough and sometimes couples have problems, but running at the first sign of problems is weak and kind of cheap. Richer, poorer....sickness and health....ringing any bells?
My wife had cancer for three years before she passed away. Sure I could have bailed out on her when things were tough, but I gave her my word (back to the sickness and health promise).
Good luck.
2007-06-08 20:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Randy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what i say. Sit down one nite and talk to him. Communication between you two is the most important part of being together. Tel him how you feel. And how your unhappy. If that dont work then leave. Bc if you go your whole live married to somone your unhappy with then what a life that will be. So talk to him and live YOUR life.
2007-06-08 20:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kristen P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both on drugs regardless what you call them and you are both enabling the other. This is nowhere near a healthy relationship. And you shouldn't be looking at another relationship until you can get your habit under control and out of your life. Don't saddle someone else with your issues. Clean yourself up, get out of the relationship and then work on you with a therapist to get yourself back on track. Then you can look at someone else in your life.
2007-06-08 20:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what to tell you. I am goingthrough the same thing. I have been married for 3 years and things changed the moment I said "I do," now I want to say "I don't." I hate my husband so much. Sometimes when I look at him I just want to say " Terrance, I want a divorce. I hate your broke azz mama, your crazy azz aunt and uncle." I hate all of them. What was i thinking about. Good Luck!!! Going to check back later to see the type of answers you get.
2007-06-08 20:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must BOTH be willing to work at it, communicate , and share with each other ,(and not the painkillers either !)
2007-06-08 20:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by Ken W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your husband only enable each other. you need to break the cycle and do what is best for you. but do it the right way and get divorced but don't start cheating.
2007-06-08 20:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes tough it out.
2007-06-08 20:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋