can a 3-way work, between 2 that are in love and still let the other explore without ill regards or jealousness,
2007-06-08 13:15:33 · 8 answers · asked by gary s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is possible but, more often than not, I would say no.
The human mind links sex and love so close that most people have their instincts take over.
Jealousy is a major emotion! What happens when one of you smiles or makes a sound that you don't make with each other?
What happens if the 3rd feels a connection with one of you?
Too many things can go wrong!
In the end it is your decision but you asked for opinions.
2007-06-08 13:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doubtful. There will always be the question of feelings towards the third person, by either of the other two.
Relationships are meant to be between TWO people. That way, there is no competition, whether it be real or imagined, with anyone else for the partner's attention, love and or affection.
I guess if it floats your boat to do the threesome thing, and the other two are okay with it...well, whatever, I guess.
But as far as a relationship is concerned, I doubt this would work out.
2007-06-08 13:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the only way a 3 way can work is if there aren't any emotions involved, which means each party is involved only for physical reasons. It is human nature to become hurt or jealous when you are emotionally involved with a person that is sleeping with someone else-- even if it is out in the open. When two people who really care about each other engage in these types of situations they are playing with fire--- it may be "fun" at first, but in the end it is not healthy for those that are truly in love.
2007-06-08 13:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by lalainya b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, there is no three or four or whatever. Intimacy by it's very definition is just that....two people who have a commitment toward each other, not a plethora of people. If you are single and you want to journey into that arena, then have at it. I don't believe you will find what you think you will by going in that direction regardless. It usually doesn't end well.
2007-06-08 13:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take it from a person who has watched a 3 some go down horribly.
They were married, (now getting a divorce), they decided that they wanted to do a 3 some, they wanted one with a girl, and then one with a guy. The husband really wanted to see his wife have sex with another man, so he was fine with the whole idea.
But after them having the 3 some, she wanted to only have sex with the other partner, not her husband.
and so she fel in love with the other man, and the other man didn't love/ like/ and didn't want to be with her, and so she was heart broken,
and her husband of course was crushed
so now there getting a divorce after a couple years of marriage...
2007-06-08 14:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by erkie_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I've seen on Dr. Phil, no. The couple in love usually end up feeling resentful and jealous toward the other one, as if they had been cheated on. Probably not the best idea.
2007-06-08 13:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by wgar88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is aomething that you need to discuss with your partner. I have tried it before and we had a mutual agreement, and even with that, it did not work. You should really think about what you stand to lose if things go sour.
2007-06-08 13:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are asking for trouble! couples involved in 3 ways it usual ends up badly.
Ive been counseling over 17 yrs
2007-06-08 13:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋