i kinda did something really mean and scarey to my friend and idk wat to do!!! i feel really bad i shouldn't have done wat i did......i feel awful :( help me please???
2007-06-08 11:33:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Call her, explain the situation and apologize. Or, write her an e-mail apologizing. A simple sorry works well if you feel you have done something wrong.
2007-06-08 11:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing details, I'll have to be kind of general, but let's give it a try...
Okay, "mean and scary," huh? The way I see it, you have two basic problems to address:
> making it up to your friend, and
> dealing with why you did what you did.
Making It Up: Did you injure him/her? If so, then it's time to tell someone and see that your friend gets the help needed to recuperate.
If we're not talking broken bones/missing teeth/something physical, then it's time for you to play I Made This Mess, So I'll Clean It Up. You ask to talk to your friend privately. Don't be surprised if the answer is "no." If it is, then you respect that, say, "I understand why you feel that way and I don't blame you - I just wanted you to know that I'm sorry I hurt you. I had no right to do that, and I'm sorry. Then you accept that this person doesn't want to have anything to do with you, and you walk away.
If the answer is "yes," you say the same thing, in private, plus, "I let you down, and I let myself down. I want to prove to you that I can be a good friend. I understand that it will take time before you see that you can trust me. Is there anything I can do to make this better for you?"
You don't offer excuses (there are no valid excuses for betraying someone's trust). You own up to your mistake, apologize, and offer to do what you can to make it better.
The next step is just as important. Ask yourself the always-useful question, "What the heck was I thinking?" Really give this one some thought. You need to look at yourself openly, without excuses, and find out why you did what you did. After you figure it out, you'll know something really useful about yourself. Well, you'll know a few things:
> Why you did it
> How to avoid doing it again, now that you know how it happened, and
> That you want to be the kind of person who doesn't do that again, and you're taking steps to make sure you don't.
We've all made mistakes and done things we're not proud of. The important thing is to learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them. Realize that this is a great opportunity to decide for yourself who you are, and who you will be.
2007-06-08 19:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have told us what you did so we could be more helpful but i will try to give you my best advice..... If this person is a true friend they will forgive you it may take a while but friends get into fights and get mad at each other all the time and true friends stick it out and get over it. So no matter what you did she should forgive you! Just explain what happened and be truthful with her/him and see what happens good luck
2007-06-08 18:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by HAILY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your friend, and tell your friend how what you did made you feel, and ask your friend to forgive you. I think that should help get rid of your guilt. And for the next time think before acting or saying anything to a friend, family, etc, think on how you are going to feel!
2007-06-08 18:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a bribe, its a heartfelt sorry...
Get something that you guys have done together (such as pick flowers, play with rocks, ext.), get her favorite candy or pop or something, wrap it up in a mini package and put on a apology letter inside! Then hug her and say how sorry you feel. Pure heartfelt sorry... you'll never fight again...
2007-06-08 18:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by suspicious minds. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appolagize to your friend to start. That is the first thing to do, but most people think that that is the only thing. If it was something like lying or something, then you need to talk to God. Ask for His forgiveness. He will forgive you. Just ask, that's all you have to do. You have to really mean it though. Don't just say it. Ask for forgiveness, but really mean it.
2007-06-08 18:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bobert R. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see this friend talk to her. If she really is a friend she should be able to forgive you. Go now and talk to your friend
2007-06-08 18:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say ur sorry and talk to her and make sure she knows you feel bad for what you did and then give her a biggg hug
2007-06-08 18:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is better than come up with the truth
2007-06-08 19:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Richard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say "i m sorry" and make it up to her. This happens a lot... u and her will get over it soon...take my word for it
2007-06-08 18:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by livexlaughxluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋