If you truly love someone, should you have to say, "I love you", all the time?

Question

Tell me how you feel about this.

Answer 1

Lady - love is not just the emotion that you feel about someone. (As Oprah said on one of her shows) Love is a VERB (an action). Love is what you DO because you feel love. If you love someone than you GIVE them the love you feel.

Everyone gives and receives love differently. There are five primary ways that people give/receive love: 1) through physical affection (touching, kissing, holding); 2) expressing love verbally (saying I love you, praising); 3) doing acts of service (washing dishes); 4) giving presents (candy for Valentine's Day) and 5) spending quality time (staying with you when you're sick). Most people GIVE love in the way that is most natural to them, the way that feels most loving to them. They way they give love is also the way that they (unconsciously) most FEEL loved.

One, last thing...you may love someone, but how would they know unless you tell them.

Answer 2

should you have to say it 'all the time'? i don't know how often that is, but if you are reluctant to say it at all then you do not truly love the person. someone who truly loves someone doesn't mind saying it 'all the time' or however much is satisfactory for each couple--everyone is different! can you show love without saying the words? absolutely! but i think that being able to say it is a big step too, and not to be taken lightly (in other words, you shouldn't say it unless you mean it, so no lying either).

Answer 3

No...
That's one of my biggest pet peeves about maintaining a long-term relationship.
At some point in the long-term relationship, I definitely feel that my love for her has become a solid and undeniable "given."
To keep "spoon feeding" that concept all the time, is to almost admit that you don't feel that way, and you might just be doing it to validate a feeling you might suspect isn't true...
And, you'd be enabling her "too sensitive and needy "need" to hear it all the time, and placate her silly "need" for constant reassurance.
Occasionally (3 or 4 times a year) you might say it with sincerity, on top of the many times a year you prove it with "behavioral" loving actions that speak much louder than "love" words any day of the week...
Thanks for letting me vent...
And, by the way...

I love you, honey bunch...! (lol)

Answer 4

All the time? Depends on what you mean. When I became a single parent, I learned the importance of 'I love ya' pretty early on, and pushed myself to say it and to hug the kids more often than I used to. Generally whenever I say goodbye I add Love ya to the end of it.

They sure know by now, but hopefully it gave them an understanding that whether I was angry with them, disappointed with them or proud of them, the 'I love you' was indelible.

In my business which involves life and death, I was told by mentor that 'if in doubt, do too much, never too little'. It's the same with that phrase, I think. Too much is just too much, but if I even have and inkling it might be needed, I'm going to say it and leave no doubt.

Peace

Answer 5

Love can be expressed through thoughts, words and deeds. Saying "I Love You" ALL the time is not necessary but it should be said Some times. Your partner will know when you do something with love or for the sake of love so it is not necessary to keep repeating " I Love You" all the time.

Answer 6

No -definitely not! Love is how you show it by deeds. Saying I Love you is meaningless. It can be used as a ploy to get something you want or to appease someone.

If you truly love someone, you show it by your actions. You can say "I Love You" in addition, then it has meaning.

Answer 7

I think its a personal preference.I chose to tell those that I love,that I love them,frequently.
Why?Because you never know what this life has in store for us.
I would hate to have not said "I love you",and have had that been my last chance.
With that in mind, I let the people I love know that I truly"love them".and say it often.
I think much more so since I lost my Father last year.

Answer 8

Not Necessarily, but when they say or do something or just have that sweet look on their face; you can't help it =)

I could say I love you a million times to the man I loved and it meant something "different" each time.

Answer 9

I do not believe you have to beacause I'm sure that the person you love will already be aware of this fact and only be needing reminding of during a romantic setting or one of you go on a trip somewhere.

Answer 10

Sometime it appears that it is all that you can do... because actions may speak louder than words but you can always have actions and can't always have words.... It is important to tell someone that you do love them and show how you feel....