I'm not planning on doing this but I know somebody who is.
2007-06-08 09:38:10 · 34 answers · asked by Cookie Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I wouldn't, but there are plenty of people who do. A 35 year old man is often looking to restore his youth and a 19 year old is perfect to feed this need in his ego. A 19 year old woman is definitely in need of a guy who has some maturity and stability, and it's fun for her to go out with a guy who has a real job, money, house, etc.
The problem doesn't come in the dating, nor in the early part of the relationship, it comes when all of his friends are 16 years older than she is, and she still wants to do things that early-20s gals want to do. It becomes a problem later on, with friends and movies and books and vacations and ... and .... and ...
2007-06-08 09:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by John B 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not! I am almost 31 and have nothing in common with someone who is 12 years younger than me. Most of the time it is all about control. Although it isn't against the law it is still not right. A person who is 19 has no idea what life is all about. There are things that you should experiance before you settle down and get married. This person should really think long and hard and the two of them need to see a marriage counselor and find out if this is a good idea.
2007-06-08 09:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would wait a few years till about 23 to make that deciscion as for the age difference it's really a case to case basis most 19 yr olds are way to immature to be married to anyone at 19 let alone someone who has had so many more years of experience in life. It's hard to see when you are in love but usually it creates a lot more issues.
2007-06-08 09:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by wolvlynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 18, I married a 37-year-old; when I was 23, I married a 39-year-old; I'm 32 now, married to a 36-year-old. The problems I had with #1 and 2 had nothing to do with the age difference.
2007-06-08 10:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were 19 I would not marry anyone. In fact, I often wonder why I ever married in the first place. Hopefully that will change since my wife and I are both working hard to make our marriage better. However, marriage should be enjoyed, not a second job for which you don't get paid.
Yes, I am cynical.
2007-06-08 09:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all..........they say that age isn't nothing but a number but there will always be that age difference among the couple that will always bring up arguements within each other/loved ones so just stick around your age group i personally would say date within a five year age limit (ur either 5 yrs older or younger no more or less but try to date people that may be the same age as u though......Good luck 2 ur firend!!
2007-06-08 10:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the younger partner is female yes, if the younger partner is a man, then no. I know people with 22 year gaps and I have an 11 year gap, married my bride just after she turned 19 and I was just off 30. Been together a long time. If they love each other that is teriffic. He will treat her like a lady and she will keep him young.
2007-06-08 10:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. At 19 you still really dont know what you want in life.
A scray statistic that all young people should know: Nowdays 95% of all marraiges that start when at least 1 of the people is 21 years old or younger end in divorce. They should wait until they are about 25 and then see if they still want to marry an older guy...then its ok.
2007-06-08 09:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I would not. I say this because there is a 12 year diference between me and my wife and it has caused so much problems. He has already been through what she will accomplish. She maybe will go to clubs when he is ready to settle down and they will most likely be on different wave lenghts. Sure it may be fine for a short period, but I would say that odds are against thme on it working out. I hope that it does, but I have seen many other couples experience the same problems. God Bless..
2007-06-08 09:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a very wise thing to do. To much of an age gap. If your friend wants children later on.. well not much of a chance. 35 years is to old for a 19 year old anyone!!!!
2007-06-08 10:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get married at 19 (if I had it to do over again, I did, and it didn't turn out well), not because of the age difference, but because I might not yet know what I'm going to want in the next 10 years. That being said, hopefully your friend's fiance has settled out to know who he is by now, and at least they will only have to deal with the life and inner changes of one of them.
2007-06-08 09:48:31 · answer #11 · answered by Breanna C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋