I want to have fun with another girl in front of my husband. Has anyone done this?

Question

We've been together 5 years.
We have a healthy sex life, and are happy in our marriage.
We enjoy trying new things, but havent branched out in this area before
We've talked about our boundaries and comfort areas in regard to this subject. It would be strictly myself and another woman, while he watches, hands off. We both agree that we find that idea pleasureable, and that we would respect eachothers wishes if one of us suddenly found ourselves uncomfortable for some reason.
My husband has expressed no interest in being involved with another woman, and says he would be totally happy watching.
It is something I brought up with him, and not something he is coercing me into doing.
Neither my husband nor myself have ever slept with anyone but eachother, so we have no baggage in that area.

Has anyone tried this in their marriage, been well-prepared, and still had a negative experience? I'm interested in personal EXPERIENCES, not OPINIONS or judgements. Thanks.

Answer 1

i have never been with a women but heard that its even better than with a man

Answer 2

You may not want an opinion or judgement and you certainly can do whatever you both want.
I do think it is something you may wish you had not done in years to come.
No I have no experience in this area, but guys are always willing to look even if they are 90 yrs old. I worked as a nurse in many nursing homes and men don't change. They are always looking.
Try something else.
Its pretty bad if you are already looking for something else after only 5 yrs of being together. Have you asked yourself why you want to do this?

Answer 3

Well, I'm not married.. but I am in a relationship and my bf and I had a 3 sum.. so its kinda what youre wanting.. we had a lot of fun.. I had never been with another girl and havent since.. I thought about it for a long time before actually building up the courage to do it.. I was really nervous bcuz I obviously didnt know what I was doing.. and the girl was a bi friend of mine and she said that I was really good and was suprised I had never done that sort of thing b4.

I say if you both are ok with it - go for it..

We want to try it again but not sure where to meet a woman interested..

Good luck

Answer 4

Wife and I have been there, done that, and MORE. Can tell you that if it goes well, it's something you'll want to do again. And the more you do it, the more likely you'll be to do other things as well. It may not happen right away, but the line becomes VERY hard to see at that point. And after a night of cocktails (maybe more) it's VERY easy to let things go farther and farther. My personal opinion based on personal experience is that it's fun to do once in a while. But don't make a lifestyle out of it. Don't let it get to the point to where sex with your husband isn't as much fun without your girlfriend(s) there to join. One last piece of advice........don't do this with somebody you're friends with or somebody you know well. It sounds crazy, but trust me..........you're better off doing this with somebody you wouldn't have to ever see again if you didn't want to! No strings! Once their gone, they're gone unless you want to invite them back over! TRUST me on that one! Want to know more? Email me.

PS: This sort of thing DOES have consiquences......

Answer 5

Sorry, everyone has an opinion. But some are based on fact and experience, while others are based purely on what they think.

I've actually seen it happen between wife and a lady friend of hers. It turned out to be a massive turn on at the moment and a massive problem down the road. It was probably one of those steps that led to our divorce.

Answer 6

I think that as long as you are extremely comfortable with yourself and you choose a close friend to do it with...it would be fine. My husband and i have talked about doing this too..but the truth is that I am just not confident enough to go through with it. If you have the self-esteem and the desire..then GO FOR IT!!!!

Answer 7

I have done this twice. First time the wife & me. husband watched. we were good friends, after that the husband joined in, but we couldnt have sex. then the husband came after me one day when his wife was at work, I was drunk & gave in, she found out, it was not good.
Then just a few months ago a friend I used to work with called invited me over to party, her & me & her b friend had 3 sum, we are no longer friends either, not good

Answer 8

Well this is coming from someone who had a friend who did this...they also were comfy and happy. She said "its better that they are open it prevents cheating and I know whats going on and this is how to keep a man happy....".
Well he cheated on her eventually, and no amount of threesomes could keep him.

If this works for you and you agree...try it..you only live once. If your that secure in your relationship go for it.
It takes a very very secure woman to do this. Good luck! Have fun!

Answer 9

I have not done it but I'm in the same situation we would like to try, we just don't know how to go about doing this or finding someone. I think if you try it and one of you does not like then you can discuss it and find maybe this isn't what you want and move on to something else new and exciting.

Answer 10

I have participated in this as the other person with the husband watching me and his wife. They did not have any problems with it. It is all about trust.

Answer 11

having no baggage you don't realize what b*tch baggage can be! I'd say keep it with no baggage. You are about to make things really complicated emotionally.