I am getting a divorce and feel scared and then i feel happy and then i feel lonely and all these emotions. I know i have to do it but my emotions are driving me nutty. Will it pass? Will i feel ''normal'' again? My mind knows things but my emotions are rulling me at the moment. Any advice, and comfort?
2007-06-08 09:21:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tkae your time...you are not only healing you are mourning.....
you are mourning what you thought your life was going to be and the loss of the person it was supposed to be with...
each emotion will work its way through.....don't get hung up on any of them...especially guilt or anger...
feel your grief and let it go...if months go by and you can't shake it speak to someone.....
what you are going through is completely normal
2007-06-08 09:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by penydred 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 28 years and getting married very young, allowed me to be young enough when this happened to start a better life for myself. I can tell you that I had never lived on my own before, so moving into my apartment was the scariest thing I've ever been through. It was also the hardest, even though I filed for the divorce. I got through it by working, and spending time with my friends, It opened up a whole new world for me, I noticed that a man that I had worked with for years, was a really nice guy, so I asked him out and this September will be our 4th anniversary. You will be fine, I was, of course it won't be easy, but you can do it. Good luck!
2007-06-08 09:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by inluvwithb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a VERY scary time. I know, I'be been there. But, you will be comforted in knowing that this is one of those things, like so many other things in life, starting a new job, finding a new friend, etc. that is far worse in our minds than it is in reality. You can do this, and you will be a much better person for having gone through it. Your new life, your freedom and independence begin the day you move.
Just remember to keep your head and take care of all of those little things, when then come up. Don't neglect them and you'll be great!
2007-06-08 09:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by John B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting a divorce?? When people get a divorce they are often controlled by their emotions in most aspects of their lives. You are getting a divorce, and your emotions are going crazy. I would expect that. I feel for you, but at the same time, I would never get a divorce. Your emotions have ruled you for a while; it is just worse than normal now. Good luck!
2007-06-08 09:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you feel lonely & I know this is hard, instead of dragging out old memories, try as hard as you can on doing something constructive, listen to music,( not sad music) make a list of things you like about yourself, call a friend or a relative and go out for drinks or something, in short, get a life of your own.
Like I said, is not easy, but if you try, little by little you will notice that getting up in the mornings is not so hard, & that you are looking forward to your new life.
2007-06-08 09:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal emotional rollercoaster. Yes with time it will pass, and life does go on. Be strong. Things will get better. Been through it 3 times already. Hope your younger and find a new love, good luck.
2007-06-08 09:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Moe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is that no matter what you do- eather it be breaking up or getting a divorce, you will always feel bad. the best thing to do is not to blame yourself. normal will never realy come, you will learn to live with it, you will be happy again and you will enjoy life, give it some time, i would say about 1year or until you truly exept the fact that you are better of without that person.
stay strong
2007-06-08 09:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by anzhela0410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Little Flower,
While I don't know exactly how you feel, I do know that it is best to keep yourself busy in these situations. Reclaim your singlehood and become your own best friend: take yourself to a movie or play, have a girls night and watch good movies with studs in them. I think these emotions are very real and it is a process, but keep your girlfriends close by for support and leave room to do stuff for yourself and others during this time.
Hang in there!
2007-06-08 09:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Laura L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you as I have gone through the same situation, is to find a local divorce counseling group you can attend. They are usually free and meet at different times to accomodate your schedule. It helped me get through a bad time in my life. You will see that you are not alone and that other people feel exactly like you do. Good luck.
2007-06-08 09:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by jul1188 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will get better! Just keep thinking about your new beginning and how much fun it's going to be getting yourself set up and starting a new life! Don't dwell on the past, just learn from your mistakes so your new life will be even better! When I got my own place it felt so good and to know I had the opportunity to fall in love again was so exciting. Just keep looking forward and you'll be fine!
2007-06-08 09:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all ended serious relationships and at the time, it seems like we'll never be able to get over it. Luckily, the saying time heals all wounds is just not a silly little saying. Recoginize that it will be hard for the forseeable future and deal with it as opposed to supressing your feelings.
It will get better, I promise.
2007-06-08 09:26:08 · answer #11 · answered by David B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋