I am pregnant and underage; I want to get married what whould i do?

Question

I am 15 and in 3 months i am going to be 16. I am pregnant with my boyfriends baby. Hi and i have been together for a year. I want to marry him; but i think my parents would stop me. Could they do that? I mean if i want to marry him could i just go to city hall and have just his mother sign for us right? Is it necessary to have both of our parents; please give me advice. Don't judge m. I'm doing whats best for My baby.

Answer 1

You may honestly believe you are, but you are NOT doing the best thing for your baby or yourself either. You need more than a wedding to make things right. You are in no position to raise a child. You also need to think of yourself and your education. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be together, give it time and then get married. The best thing for all of you would be to give the baby up to a loving family. This is not a situation that will be good for you or the baby.

Answer 2

If the law in your state says that you can marry, then you can, but if not then you will have to wait. Although some states do have exceptions to the age requirement if the female is pregnant, most do not. You will need to find out what that is in your state.

As a side note, getting married at such a young age may not be whats best for you're baby. You may be better off waiting a few years. Most marriages, not all, but most marriages that start off as a "shot gun" wedding, dont last very long. So, either you can be single and happy until you decide that you want to get married for reasons other than your pregnant, or you can put the child through a bad marriage in which youre husband resents you and you cannot stand each other, and then the kid gets to go through your divorce...and so on it goes.

My suggestion would be to check with your local laws, and then to have the child and wait a year before committing.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I was 17 when I went through this. In my state once your baby is born you are considered an adult. I want you to know that I am still married and I have two children now. It has been 4 years. My husband and I are really unhappy together. We both now realize that we were too young to marry. I do not suggest to anyone that htey get married before 25. Live your life and have the life experiences you deserve. You can be a good mother and stay single. If you really love each other and want to stay together, getting married won't affect that. You can make that decision when you are both older. Think about how precious it would be to have your child participate in your wedding around the age of 5. Don't jump into the raging river with no life vest and rocks tied to your feet. Getting married is relativley simple getting divorced is seriously complicated. I have love for my husband b/c my children love him. I am not however in love with him and I was just too young to see that before. Good luck in whatever you do but getting married will not make things any easier. As a matter of a fact you can probally get more help form the state if you don't get married. Only a year into a relationship is too early for anyone to know if they want ot spend their lives together. I know you want to do what is best but what is best is for you to make repsonsible decisions. Things are going to be hard, count on it. I have been with my husband since I was 15 and we got married when I was 17. My life is hard and I have to sleep int he bed I made, be careful with your decisions now. You entire life will be affected, your parents may not seem understanding but they generally do have your best interest at heart.

Answer 4

Is getting married best for your baby, or will it make easier for you. The easiest thing to do is not always the right thing. Marriage will only have a chance if you get married because you want to marry your husband. Not because you think you SHOULD marry your boyfriend. In this case you have to put the baby first. Adoption should be considered an option. Your child will find a loving family and have every opportunity in life. You need to evaluate if you can care for this child. Can you even afford this child? Your situation is one that you cannot win, no matter what you choose. A 15 and 16 year old will not be able to make suitable income to sustain a child. Will you put this burden on your families? Reguardless what you decide, only you will know what is truly best for the child, and only you can decide.

Answer 5

You won't like what I have to say... Don't marry this guy, no matter how much you love him, you're 16. My honest opinion is that you should give this child up for adoption. Being that you're underage, most good jobs are not open to you, you most likely won't get any job that offers half way decent medical insurance. Thus, yours and his parents are stuck with medical expenses. Also, don't drop out of school to get a job. May seem like the right thing to do, but you may as well hang yourself now and get it over with, (back to the job thing) no place is going to hire a 16 year old mother with no high school diploma. Unless you feel like working the McD's drive thru the rest of your born days...stay in school. About the marriage thing....DO NOT FOR ANY REASON DO IT GIRL! It will end badly, I can almost assure you of that. At this point in your life you don't even know how to plan anything more complex than what you're doing for the weekend, much less waht to do if your child falls ill... Don't move out of mom and dad's place. Only the shittiest apartments in the shittiest parts of town will rent to minors. You don't want that. Make the dad stay in school to. He may be one of the very few teenage guys willing to do the right thing by sticking with you, but make that boy stay the hell in school. In fact, when he turns 18, have him join the armed services, then get married, then you'll get free housing by living on base, medical insurance for your new family, and his future education is paid for by the G.I. bill should he choose to pursue that option.

There it is, hope I didn't ramble or jump around. best of luck to you, your kid, and your boyfriend. I hope you make it.

Answer 6

You must have consent from your own parent. You may take this issue to a court of law, if your parents refuse to sign the document for you to get married. Have your boyfriend's parents support you, and their son. A court will decide who is right, and chances are, they will allow the marriage. You must not let your parents take the baby from you, since you love him/her so much. You can legally leave your parents home, and move in with your boyfriend's parents.
Sue your parents, under the law of the Emancipation Proclamation, and if you win, in a court of law, it will mean you are an ADULT, and your parents will have NO say over you anymore. Be careful you are sure what you want, because if, and after you win, you are on your own. Be sure this young man, and his parents love you, and will care for you.
I know your decision is difficult, but I beg you not to abort this baby. If you can't support him/her, some else would love to have, and take care of your baby. Bless you.
PS If you decide to sue your parents, you don't need to pay for a lawyer. Go In Pro Per, which means you represent yourself. The court will help you, and tell you what to do. Go to Family Court in your area. The number will be in the phone book, under family court. Good Luck.

Answer 7

I hate to do this, but I actually agree with Humanist for once. I believe it depends on what state you're in, but I think that even in the few states that allow you to get married at 13, you need parental consent. If you truly love each other, you can wait.

My brother has a good friend who got his girlfriend pregnant at 15. They both realized they were too young and had more schooling to attend to, so she lived with her parents while she and her boyfriend raised their son. Once they finished school, got jobs and got their adult lives together they married; their son was around 5. Now he's a teenage and they have twins at home.

If you don't love each other, then there is no sense in getting married now and divorced later anyway.

Answer 8

i think you need a parent from both kids, usually it is better to ask your mom unless you already are pretty sure what she'll say. sometimes an understanding priest will take your side and let his mom forge it or something. other then that sometimes lawyers will give you free legal advise about the circumstances in your area. Maybe the law doesn't apply since you are with child.

Atheist Geek is also correct about emancipation, i forgot about that. They will definitely give it since you are pregnant and have promise of marriage.

Also, do not let these people talk you out of keeping your child. adoption is not a good option if you expect to see the child again. The child would most likely be raised by strangers that have nothing in common with you. You may be young but your heart is in the right place and that is all you need to get by as long as you are willing to have your man and yourself work to keep your family afloat. Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

You need your parent's permission. If they won't give it, go file for emancipation when you turn 16. With a baby on the way and a marriage proposed, they will award it.

Now, with the original question answered:
Go to an adoption agency and put the baby up for adoption. You will both be better off. You are too young to be raising a baby. We don;t need another criminal youth from baby parents to have to kill in 15 years. Give the baby a chance at living a good life.
The choice is yours. Choose selfishly and visit Junior on death row, or choose wisely and meet Junior as he enters Harvard.

Answer 10

You better not get married. You bet give child up for adoption. You better turn your life around because you will only go further down the drain in your life. You need to get more educated and get a career before starting any kind of family.