i hate myself and have a very low self esteem?

Question

how can i change that i mean i cry all the time and put myself down kids at my school tease me and call me names

Answer 1

First of all, the kids at your school make fun of people because of their own insecurities.

Do you believe in what you avatar name means? You are a child of God and you are beautiful. I grew up not liking myself either. My mother constantly critiqued herself and put herself down all the time. I caught on at a very young age that my beauty was not in the eye of the beholder, beauty was something that someone else can make you see. That is SO not true! Fortunately for me, I met the most wonderful man in the world that over the last 10 years has taught me how to love myself. I have my bad moments where I look in the mirror and want to say "Oh look at my nose" or "Man my butt looks big". But when I get into that mode, I quickly stop myself and make a positive comment like "This eyeshadow really brings out my eyes" or "This dress gives my body a great shape".

You are beautiful because you are you and there is no one else on this earth who can compare.

Answer 2

I've been there...middle and high school is a very tough time for many kids. You feel awkward, right? You look in the mirror and you hate what you see, and the kids teasing you and laughing at you don't exactly help matters, right? But let me tell you something- and this is going to sound like such a bunch of crap, but it's true- if you let the other kids know that you don't like yourself, they will have no reason to like you either. Go make a list of anything you do like about yourself. I bet there are one or two things. Do you have an interesting hobby? Do you have a loving family? It doesn't have to be anything particular about you, just things you llike about your life. Next time a kid starts up with you, just remember those things on your list, whatever they are, and tell the kid to go to hell. Just remember, adolescence doesn't last forever, and soon you'll be headed to college where diversity and differences in appearance and beliefs are celebrated! You are your own best friend- if you don't like yourself, nobody else will either. Stop putting yourself down at school, and you'll see a HUGE difference! Hang in there...

Answer 3

Tell those dumb kids that none of them r any better than u r. We r all children of God and u will go to heaven. They r not on the same path u r. They only try to make u feel bad to make themselves feel better. But in reality, they only feel worse.Wat I'm trying to say is, someone out there loves u.God is that someone.He is ur father. And I love u because I am ur sister (in God's way)Just to let u know, u r a great person. Janet Jackson thinks she's ugly and not worth anything, but everyone still looks up to her. Has it ever accured to u that people look up to u and that people tease u because they think ur better than them, but they don't wanna let u know? Ur just as good as anyone else on this earth. Just remember that. May I add u to my contact list? I'll guide u through. I won't let u look down on urself because I am ur sister, and sisters r meant to help their siblings. My voice will be heard weather it's today or tomorrow. I will be heard and u will, too. Tell me what u think of this messege. If u hate it it won't bring me down because I have faith, and u should, too. Thnx for reading this messege. It's probably the longest and most religious one I have ever written.

Answer 4

Speaking from experience. I have been called many names in my life time. I have heard everything from racial slurs to fat jokes. It used to make me feel horrible and inferior. It wasn't until I realized how much power I was giving others that I decided that enough was enough. I had to stop letting other control my emotions and my perceptions of myself. People try to pull yourself esteem down to validate themselves. Once you stop helping them, they will find no joy in what they are doing. My mother always told me, "Don't let them see you sweat." I'm passing that advice on to you.

The real issue here is not with them, but with you. Once people realize that you love you no matter what, they will start respecting you because you respect yourself. People have a way of sensing your self-esteem. With one glance, people can tell how you feel about yourself. The next time your at school, at work, with your friends, or where ever you may be lift your head high. It may seem funny at first, but eventually you will start believing in yourself. That's the most important thing you can take aways from this message. Believe in yourself!

Answer 5

Change your mental habits to belief in yourself instead of disbelief.
Learn to expect, not to doubt in so doing you bring everything into the realm of possibility, when you except the best in yourself you release a magnet force in your mind which by a law of attraction tends to bring the best to you, things become better when you expect the best instead of the worst,

Answer 6

sounds like depression and/or general anxiety disorder...talk to your doctor...you are not the only person that deals with this...I have since I was 7 or 8 and I am thirty now. Get help...its out there