Should the man be the one who decides where a couple goes on dates?

Answer 1

Part of the joy of getting to know someone is to get to know what they like. Balance is key. When the man decides where to go, then the women gets to be part of his world. When the woman decides where to go, then the man gets to be part of her world.

So, when you spend too much time in one's world, you're neglecting the other. Dating is about joining together to do common interests. Think of it as dancing ... man leads, but is flexable enough to show off his darling in great light.

Answer 2

I believe that in order to have a long lasting relationship, the decision should be 50/50. The longest dating relationship I ever had (and we parted on very amicable terms, so we're friends) was based on that idea. We were both in college at the time, so we would decide together what to do and where to go, and we would take turns paying. Some would argue that letting/having the woman pay is a social faux pas, but, at the end of the day, we had a great time and there was never an argument over money.

Answer 3

They should take turns deciding, or they should decide together.

If it's a first date, the one who does the asking should make the suggestion. However, he or she should be willing to be flexible if the other person doesn't like the idea.

Example:

Party A: Wanna go out some time?
Party B: Sure.
Party A: How about dinner?
Party B: Sounds great.
Party A: Italian food?
Party B: Ohh, yuck. I hate Italian food. How about Chinese?
Party A: Sounds great. Say, 8:00?
Party B: See you then.

Answer 4

NO WAY! i think that both of the people on the date should kind of decide together to make sure that 1 of them or both of them were acting, see if they can start over if the date goes wrong!

Answer 5

Not in today's dating world. It usually is decided by both. Of course, if it is the first date or a "special surprise", then he can plan the event, but otherwise it is a shared responsibility these days (in my humble opinion). That goes for paying the tab as well - shared is better.

Answer 6

Until the issue of who is paying is hashed out the one that pays should ALWAYS get to decide.

Allowing a woman to decide how much money the guy is going to spend on her is just like women being able to vote in this country, yea just like that !

Answer 7

One of the things that makes dating these days difficult is that society is in something of a transition period- women are more independent, but we're also not completely out of the time where men are expected to take charge in these kinds of matters. So some of these answers should be very interesting.

As for me, I would prefer to take the lead in this sense, not because of some "macho" thing, but because it shows that I'm someone who is decisive and confident. But if she wants to do something else, that's fine and I would be willing to listen.

Answer 8

Yes, I think the guy in the relationship should decide where the couple is going. He should try to show his girl that he is in control and he knows exactly what he wants. But not to the point where he becomes overbearing. He should ask her opinion like what is she in the mood for? when she answers he sould say, "Well how about...?" He should show her that he wants to make her happy and that what she wants does matter!

Answer 9

I feel there should not be very hard and fast rule who decides or take turns on decisions. Both should be liberal and accomodative of each other. Life should remain a combination of give and take.

I think nothing is wrong if one of them always decides and the other always, willingly and happily agrees.

Answer 10

It depends on the couple. They may want to compromise or have one pick a place one date and the other picks the next. If he wants to do something special or make this particular date special, then yes he should pick the place.