i am in the middle of my two best friends?

Question

i feel like am in the middle of my two best friends okay this is how it happened my friend's angel and candy are like my sisters but when angel started talking about candy she swore for me not to tell then candy started talking ab angel and she also told me not to tell then later on down the line they kept telling me stuff about each other and idk what to do should i tell both of then what they have been saying about each other or keep it to myself its been like this the whole....... year i wanna keep my promise and not tell but i cant take it anymore

there real names are candace and angelena [lol]

Answer 1

vanessa, you don't have to tell them that they are both saying things to you. listen to them. even if you can't take it anymore. listen to every word they are telling you. it only means that they have this huge trust in you and they are at ease when tehy are with you. but when they are talking to you, talk to them too. listen and advice. be the bridge for them to make peace. little by little, you'll able to see each others side. don't be afraid to talk to them about how you feel when they keep on telling you about each other. don't get tired of being their friend.

listen..think...talk to your friend. ..advice. ,,and listen again.

Answer 2

I have solved this kind of situation once between my friends D & B. All I did was a little different & hard to act but I succeeded. I used to give them(D) a chance to speak of the another, after then starts the play. I say some good qualities of the other one(B) which I was impressed and tell her that B liked her and also liked the way she speaks, her attitude & wanted to be like her. And that B had requested me not to tell D how she feels about her.(I also told her that I was not able to hide the secret from her now & so I breaked the promise ). As she is my friend she believed me.
And I told B the same thing and she too believed me, as i knew eachone's character it was easy. The only thing hard is to make them believe what I say & make sure that they don't ask eachother about these things. I TELL THEM NOT TO SPEAK A WORD ABOUT THIS MATTER TO THE NEXT PERSON TILL THEY LIVE (i tell them that I dont want to make the other one know about the broken secret). I Give them some space till I find some difference in them in eachothers attitudes. Let them get together alone( make situations so they get along) Their likingness when grews stronger go in and tell them they make really good friends.They grow into good friends how u expected them to behave.
This is how i and my friends got together & till now they are friends. And if they come to know about what I did I would tell them that they were silly to have such attitudes and that I just attempted to change their attitude. Hope this works on your friends too. All the best. Take care.

Answer 3

No, you shouldn't tattle on your friends. The nest time Candy or Angel is talking about the other, you say " I am not interested in hearing negative things about my friend. If someone was talking bad about you around me,. I would ask them to stop." A good friend always stands up for their friends. The question is, How do you know they don't talk behind your back? Are you sure you want to have friends like that?

Answer 4

Here is what you should do:

1- Do keep your promise.
Don't tell your friends about what they've been saying to each other.

2- When one of them starts talking about the other, tell her that you will not tolerate hearing that as she is your friend too and you don't want to hear her talking behind your friend's back.

3- Try to get them to like each other, indirectly...
(I'm sure you are wise to find techniques to do this)...

And good luck!
Just keep in mind, not matter what happens, hold on to both Angel and Candy coz they are both your friends!

Answer 5

They obviously value you as a friend since they tell you such personal feelings about what annoys them about the other girl. If you tell, there could be some serious catfights, so that's not the way to go. Try telling them that they should maybe sort things out with eachother instead of taking it out on YOU. If that don't work, march em to the nearest counselor.

Answer 6

Ok, well this happens all the time to me. All you have to do is tell your friends you don't want to hear it anymore, be honest but not too blunt. Tell them that their both your friends and that you don't want to get in the middle of it. As for telling them who said what, DON'T!! Look, I have been in this situation many times before, and if you go and say stuff it will come back and bite you in the ***. Carma is a *****. So I hope I helped and good luck...to all of you

Answer 7

Likeee, omg...totally three-way call trap them!!!!

No, I am definitely kidding.
Why don't you sit both of them down, together and say to them, "Why don't you tell each other what you've been telling me."
I don't think you should be the one to tell each girl their supposed "best friend" has been talking about her behind her back, they should tell each other.
If you told, they'd get mad at you which you don't want.
Just be like, "Look, both of your friendships are very valueable to me. I hate that both of you hate on each other and I just wish, for my sake and yours, that you could come out and say what you feel about each other and settle this."

Maybe not those words exactly, because it's kind of cheesey, but something along those lines.

Don't worry, things will get better.
And if not, you'll find out that it's not worth it.

Answer 8

You should really break down and explain to them the situation that they have each put you in. Honesty IS always the best policy. So tell them, "Look,...you are both my best friends. If you don't like each other...so be it. But I love you both. I wouldn't want to hear anyone bad mouth you. So please, if you have something negative to say about the other, say it to someone else." They are really putting you in an unfair position. Good Luck.

Answer 9

It's so easy to not get involved.
To each one just say look, you're a friend to both of them and unless they want to lose your friendship, they're not to talk about each pother to you, it puts you in a awkward corner, and it's not fair.
I was in a situation with two friends Vickie and Sonja. So I told Sonja to not talk to me about Vickie and vice versa - and to this day I am still friends with both, it worked like a charm.
Just cause other people's friendships don't last does not mean yours have to break, and it doesn't need to involve you either - it's not your fight.

Answer 10

Ignore everything they've said about each other in the past and now when either one says anything about the other just say, you know she's my friend, I don't really want to talk about her anymore.
This is how you just stop the drama, take yourself out, and they can work out their issues on their own.