how come women are beautiful and still think they are not.....but some guys are ugly and could care less?

Question

i mean the most beautiful women in the world still seem uneasy or insecure about their looks.......whilst they could have aany guy they want.. yet most of the guys are butt ugly...and dont even notice...


weird, eh????

Answer 1

We can blame society and society does have lots of issues but I think we need to deep into our past to understand why its so pervasive!

Primitive man wanted to attract a mate. To do this he neeed to show he was skilled, or physically strong so he he support his potential mate and their off spring. He looks were not critical.

Primitive woman needed to show she would be a good mat and mother. I ssupect that was done by making her self look good.

Does this mean we are stuck with primitive roles? Of course not! But we can't ignore some of our very base instincts.

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

It's the culture in which we live. I hear/see advertisements for women's cosmetics (hair dye, makeup, lotions, etc.) and clothing basically saying that if they wear this, they'll be beautiful, look younger, even happy. I even see this with food commercials. Well, commercials that are for things that I think are supposed to be food.

Look at the aforementioned pictures of women in magazines, TV, etc. Women, even older women, are thin, perfectly made up, hair done, etc. and they seem happy, have a "handsome" husband, etc.

On Monday I caught part of the Oprah show, which I rarely watch. I guess I just thought the anti-aging topic interesting as it was on the day I celebrated (yes, I celebrated) my 30th birthday. So what if I'm 30. What's supposed to be "bad" about this age anyway? The women who were on the show talked about how great it was to be their age and how they've embraced growing older. Yet, they still admitted that they color their hair, wear makeup, etc. Yeah. They've embraced their age while hiding behind chemicals? Not impressed.

As I said, I'm 30 and I feel great. I have some gray hair, I have some lines around my face. I have some makeup, but I've used it more for the mirror to brush the back of my undyed, chemical free hair. (Well, I use traditional shampoos and conditioners, but since they're free, it works.) I don't worry about vericose (sp?) veins, etc. Although, with my pregnancy, I've noticed a few. I'm more mature than I've ever been. I have a wonderful relationship with my husband. In September we're expecting our first baby (a girl). Why not embrace getting older?

I am beautiful. While I have my flaws (I am wonderfully human after all), I'm overall a great person. One day last week I was having a bad day and I griped to my husbnad that I pray that our daughter doesn't take after me. I knew he knew what was bugging me, and he responded with, "What? To be loving and caring with a big heart?" I don't wear makeup as I said. While I go out looking put together, I don't go overboard. I have plenty of dressy and dressy casual clothes; I'm not a Tshirt or sweatshirt and sweats type, at least, not for outside of the house. Tonight we're going to a graduation party. It's a casual affair and I'll be going in kahaki shorts and a white blouse (if I get it ironed). I might leave on the old golf shirt I have on (it's spot and tear free), I just like my maternity clothes and looking pregnant. Oh, yeah. I'm also NOT concerned about the weight I gain during pregnancy. It's vital for the baby, as most of it IS the baby. While I'll wash my face before we go, I'll put my unwashed since Wednesday hair into a ponytail.

Sorry. This is my two cents. I've always been this laid back and never got into the girly thing.

Answer 3

Look at TV, especially in commercials. Almost any woman who is selling something has to be reasonably attractive (even in the Dove commercials, where Dove is trying to convince people that not-so-beautiful people are beautiful, too). Then look at the guys. There's a lot of mediocre-looking guys on TV. The only discrepancy is that if the commercial is about a product that has competitors, the good-looking one is the one promoting THEIR product. For example, the Alltel commercial with Chad - he's not the best-looking guy on Earth, but he's way better looking than the other guys who represent other phone companies. Same with the Mac and PC commercial. The Mac guy is young and hip whereas the PC guy is middle-aged and pudgy.

It's a double standard, thanks to American media.

Answer 4

Because women are taught from a very young age that we are nothing if we are not perfectly gorgeous, while men are taught to make farting noises with their arm pits! LOL!

Seriously, our culture really doesn't "do" normal looking women. Even the attractive women on the news are shot through a fuzzy lense as they get older in an attempt to keep them young looking while the men are allowed to age gracefully.

Think of the movies... how many movies are there of dopey old guys in the romantic lead against 20 year old girls young enough to be their granddaughers? (There was one with Jack Nicholson and Helen Hunt a few years ago that comes to mind... ew!)

Women are supposed to be 20, skinny, and agreeable. Men only have to be charming... and sometimes not even that!

Answer 5

the idea of being the perfect looking women is so strong in this society that many women feel insecure about their looks. as goes the old saying "sex sells" women see these other women in advertising and on TV and feel bad about themselves because they don't look like that woman. what many women don't realize is that these women are airbrushed and photoshoped to look perfect, in real life they do not look this way. as well as the rise in cosmetic surgery. a sexy or beautiful woman can sell to both men and women, you don't see a sexy or beautiful man selling to both men and women as often. there has been a rise in insecure men as well, but it is more of a younger generation thing. older men were raised to be manly and that their appearance was to look like a man. and even if they don't come off as insecure they still may be, its just not as acceptable for men to be that way.

Answer 6

Guys are emotionally hardwired to better accept rejection. One result of this is that men do not put as much value on other people's opinions. While this may help them with their self-esteem, it makes them difficult to deal with or understand in other situations.
It's like the old saying..."No matter how beautiful a woman is, somewhere in the world there's a guy who's tired of doing her."

Answer 7

Because beautiful women have received attention all their lives because of their looks. So they consciously or subconsciously believe that the way they look determines their self worth. I am always bewildered that men who are, ah, let's be kind and say unattractive, are the most arrogant. And it doesn't seem to be that whole compenstation thing either. But what really gets me is the vulgar, trashy girls who think that are SOOOOO hot.

Answer 8

Ya your right it's weird, but it's insecurity in an woman so that is way they say that and sometime a woman does not feel beautiful so she wants to be remind that the person that she is either with or around to tell her that.

Answer 9

There are many good answers here.
When I was growing up my parents never told me to make sure I looked pretty before I left the house. It was always "make sure you are wearing clean underwear in case you are in an accident."
My sisters on the other hand were constantly reminder of hair, nails, make up,, etc.

Thats why. Also, as men do we worry about our *** being big, thighs, breast? No. The only thing we worry about isnt really even seen until the "moment of truth".

Answer 10

I dont think Im beautiful,but have been told I was.Of course my husband tells me I am,guys online have told me but I figure they just want some cybering going on lol

I myself dont think I am.I think most women would say they're not because we all have our own flaws about ourselves we dont like.

Men...Honestly.I think my husband is good looking,but he's insecure.Especially if Im talking to guys online.And NO I dont sit and cyber allday long,but I do have a few guy friends I chat with.
The guys that ARE into themselves and care how they look..are usually gay.And I dont mean to bash anyone,Im just saying.I know a few gay guys and they are all into themselves.

I'm also from Alabama.Guys here.or most dont care to much,except maybe when dating.But where Im from people are just laid back.Not into all that Hollywood drama gotta be beautiful crap.