im 12 years old and i want a baby?

Question

i kmow im to young to feel this way but i do im almost ready to do anything to have a baby i have never had sex or anything how can i stop feeling this way

Answer 1

Oh honey - you need to wake up! Your too young - just a baby yourself. You have no idea what having a baby takes. Its midnight feedings, diapers, waking up to have your baby burning up with a 103 temp, cribs, carseats, highchairs, docotr visits, its EXPENSIVE to have a baby. Your in school. Who would care for the baby?

If you want to be close to a baby - consider baby sitting.

When you are all grown up & mature - you will realize what a HUGE mistake having a child at your age would be. Good luck to you honey. And God Bless.

Answer 2

It's wonderful you like babies but yes -you are way too young for anything like this.

Find a mother of a new born baby and ask her what it's like. Better yet see if you can help that mother with the child. Get a taste all the work and responsibility that's involved with the day to day care of a baby.

I have two sons and because of some unusual circumstances, my wife wasn't always available. Trust me, nothing will test you more then getting out of bed three or four times a night to feed and change a baby. And by far that's not the hardest thing you'll have to do.

To have and raise baby you will need much more than a package of diapers and a jar of strained peas. You will need a committed partner, support from your family, at stay at home parent and enough money to support the baby, the stay at home parent, the working parent, the home they live in and the million little things that you need.

A baby is the greatest thing in the world but you'll want to do it right. Start with some research, talk to your parents and any other adult you can trust.

Most of all don't have sex when you are 12! It's not good for you or the the baby you want to have. Take your time, enjoy being a teenager before you think about becoming a mother.

Answer 3

Children under 17 who want babies often just miss the attention of one or both parents. A baby comes with a lot of responsibility. Enjoy your life while you are young and without a baby because if you have a baby, your life will be limited to what you need to do instead of what you want to do. Don't be dumb. Be smart, plan for the future. Get a great career and find love then have a baby. Don't have a baby and lose your life right before your eyes.

Example:
Tammy: I am going to the mall and skating later.
You: I have to apply for welfare and food stamps and this baby is heavy and I don't have money for the bus.
Tammy: Too bad. I am throwing a party for my boyfriend Chuckie. Why don't you come?
You: Can't. No babysitter. No transportation. And no date.
Tammy: What happened to the baby's father?
You: He split when I told him about the baby. Besides, he already has a steady girl. I was just a fluke.
Tammy: Tough break. Should have used a condom.
You: Yeah, too late for sorry. I am so overwhelmed. (cries with her baby in her arms)


Don't be a fool. Be smart, wait for love after you educate yourself and get a good job and house.

Answer 4

Don't you are too young to raise a child properly, they need 24 hr a day care. At 12 years old do you have the funds to provide the child with food, clothing, regular medical care, medications when needed, when they become older they get more expensive, school activities, school expenses etc. Also at 12 you can not get a decent job to pay for all this (babysitting isn't a decent job) and get decent health ins because just having prenatal care is expensive not to mention delivering the child that is way way expensive.
Plus what would your parents say more than likely at your age they would say adoption or if they believe in it abortion. I do not think Social Services in your state may not think you would be a fit mother at this age. Plus you may have your period but your body is not mature enough to carry a child and deliver one safely.
And another thing you plan on continuing with school or dropping out and living your life with a 6th grade education. Wait until you are an financially stable adult, educated, and able to care for yourself.
You can't just have a baby because you want one at the age you are at its not all fun and games its serious do not bring a child into the world at your age people that are adults and decide to have children talk about it for months before they even start trying. Me and my significant other have talked about it for a few months now we just bought a house and both have some debt we want to get paid on before we bring a child into our lives and I am 22 and he is 29 we have stable jobs he is a Software Engineer and I am a RN and we are waiting to be stable and financially sound. So what makes you think you could support a child at 12 years old whose best job probably is a babysitting job and the chores around the house, when you have two working professionals with college degrees that make a resonalble amount of money are deciding to wait to be finacially set

Answer 5

Well, to really help you I guess I'd need to know some extra information. How long have you felt this way? Did it start with puberty/period? Why do you want to have a baby? etc.

I could go the oprah route and say spend a few days with a teenage single mother trying to make ends meet and raise a kid. However, I don't have oprah's resources to get you in touch with one.

Kids are a lot of work. They aren't always a bundle of joy. They can break your heart and your bank account at the same time. I've heard a lot of people talking about having a kid so they have someone who is dependant on them and loves them. But that doesn't always happen. Especially as they grow older their mom isn't always their best friend.

Anyway, I hope that you can find the help you need with this.

Answer 6

You should to hang around some little cousins or something.... maybe you should baby sit an infant for a couple of hours to actually see if you could handle THAT 24 hours a day.

Your mind set will change. Enjoy your youth. Most teens who have a baby way to young wish they had waited.... you will be one of them. Plus.... i don't think your parents will be please to find out their 12 year old daughter wants to have a baby....

Is their something going on in your home to make you feel this way? Most teens feel unloved at home so they think their answer is a baby, because the baby will "love" them.
Your a baby yourself, Learn to take care of you them when you are ready for a family (hopefully after college and marriage) you will look back a realize you have made the right decision.

good luck to you!

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with feeling the way you do. Having a baby is the most wonderful thing a woman can do in this life. I'm sure this is all you hear, but you need to be patient. There are probably babies around you that you can enjoy. Enjoy them while they're not yours and wait until you're older and married and you can have an Eternal Family. Trust me, you don't want to mess that up now. You don't need to stop feeling the way you do; you just need to control yourself to be content with waiting until you are a grown woman. Hope that helps.

Answer 8

First off, think about the responsibility that comes with having a child. You have to get pregnant, and from there you have mood swings, morning sickness, you gain a lot of weight. Then you have this 8 pound monster shoved out of something very tiny...which is NOT a pleasant experience. You'll be bombarded with fecal matter, snot, urine, vomit, and any other imaginable bodily fluid from a small child. Next comes the cost of clothes, diapers, food, healthcare. You will be spending the next 18+ years of your life being responsible for another human being. Forget about high school parties and hanging out with friends if you plan on being a responsible parent. My advice to you is to wait a few years...live your life while you still can. Have fun. If you are getting maternal instincts just start babysitting for relatives, friends and neighbors. That might control the urges...and if not, you might try talking to a school counselor. I'm sure he or she could provide much more helpful advice than I am.

Answer 9

Stop!
Think you are way to young to even consider a baby, You have a lot of growing up to do yourself.
I felt that way at 12/13 too, its your hormones and body changes, try sitting for someone elses baby or helping out.
You will see they are very cute and sweet but so hard work, the dirty nappies, sick, illnesses, crying and needing you all night long, you dont get any time for you or to have fun or be with friends.
I was wise i waited till i was 18, the birth is far too painful for a 12 year old its like squeezing a water mellon through a straw.
Dont do it hun, please enjoy your chilhood you only get one chance at that, babies you can have again and again if wanted but you cant teach a child if you didnt get to be a child.
*Hugs*
xxx

Answer 10

I used to feel like that all the time, when I was 16-17. My boyfriend and I would watch my cousin's daughter, and he was so good with her that it just made me want one so badly. You just have to remind yourself that no matter how much you could love that baby, you could not be a very good parent to it. You would either miss out on school, or miss out on being with your child. It would also put a terrible strain on your family.
In addition to all of the emotional things. Your body may not be able to handle a baby so early in life. Many young pregnancies end in miscarriage, which brings on even more emotional hardship. I know you probably thought about all of this stuff already, but you really have to pound it in to your head. You will be a mother someday, when you can support and nurture the baby like mother should.