I'm not talking about approaching for sex or love, but just to make friends with. From my experience, the less attractive and overweight women are very outspoken & willing to become friends easily. The slim & good-looking women seem very reserved and keep a distance from men.
What could be the reason for this?
2007-06-08 02:47:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What is "it" that is so hard?
I know what you mean though. Maybe it's our imaginations, but sometimes slim, good-looking women appear aloof. Maybe because creepy guys like me are always trying to talk to them...
2007-06-08 02:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by The 48th Ronin 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Easy. The slim and attractive women don't need to be outspoken or friendly with guys. They get plenty of guys to approach them anyway. Throw in the fact that probably TOO many guys, particularly ones they have no interest in whatsoever, are constantly approaching them, it is natural that they would be more reserved. Supposedly less attractive women have to work harder to attract guys, and thus some of them are more out-going. Even if you are just trying to make friends, a woman does not initially know this. So that fact has little impact on how they initially act.
2007-06-08 09:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
This will sound rude, but it is what I have observed over time.
The men the slim & good-looking women seem very reserved about are the ones whose attitudes are very off-putting. So that is why they are harder for you to approach. There is something about your attitude they don't like. As for the "less attractive" and overweight women you have no problems with? You're picking only those you think are less attractive and "easy." You target certain ones.
It's you.
2007-06-08 09:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Surprisingly, many slim and very attractive women don't see themselves that way. They don't have it all together like many people think and it's hard for them to approach men. Also, they are used to being hit on for sex so letting them know up front that you are different from most guys would be helpful.
2007-06-08 09:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its true, attractive women are harder to approach. Its because they are seen by most men as a target of conquest. But that doesn't mean its imposable. Because of their looks they find it hard to make friends, or get dates. Men are intimidated and insecure so don't try. And they probably have a plethora of friends, where as over weight and not as attractive women are easier to get to know just because they are not targeted, and men dint fear them. If you want to get to know a attractive woman, use short greetings and ask how they are but don't be to out there. they are like a skittish horse, go it them fast, they run. But act slow and let them know you mean them no harm and they will warm to you better. They can smell fear, and since fear, and predator.
2007-06-08 10:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Saint 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women who are slim and attractive find it hard to know who really wants to be friends versus those guys who just want to hump around. Maybe the less attractive people are more eager for attention.
2007-06-08 09:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lady 205 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of the men, only just want a 1 night stand with pretty girls.
Many men think, just cuz she is pretty, she will go sleep with anyone, not up for serious relationship etc.
Also bigger women, well, they will have to have a bubbly personality to enable guys to fancy them.
2007-06-08 10:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anon 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I sense a lot of stereotyping going on here.
Think about what you mean by "friend". I'm thinking the slim, good-looking women know you don't know what you are talking about either.
I don't consider myself attractive and I am over weight. I mind my p's and q's, and trust my instincts when it comes to talking to strangers. Their physical attractiveness means nothing to me...my "spidee" senses tell me I would back away from you too.
2007-06-08 10:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because in general, when we're approached by a man who says he wants friendship, it turns out he really wanted to sleep with us. I used to be willing to be friends with anyone who asked...but after enough skeezebags have come my way, now I'm very cautious about friendships with men.
2007-06-08 09:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
b cause we r drooling over our words lol
we feel they may b out of our class . or to snobbish
there could b any number of reasons
just say hi to some u never know
good luck
2007-06-08 09:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋