I have two very good friends who are married and at the moment are at each others throats all the time. They both abuse alcohol to a massive extent and both use cocain. He is the breadwinner and works away a month at a time, she is lonely whilst he is away and drinks all day long. she came round yesterday to my house and was very hungover and smelt of booze, she brought 3 bottles of wine with her and this was 12.30 lunctime, by 15.15 she had drunk all the wine and wanted to go out drinking in town. She has a secret credit card with a £10.000 limit and is using that to fund her drink and drugs habit and her husband doesn't know, the friendship is making my partner and I argue, because she keeps coming to our home on her own to drink even when her husband is home. He phoned me late last night shouting that I had got his wife drunk and that she told him that I had activated a credit card in his name to fund her drinking etc (not true) and was going to report me for fraud. What should I do
2007-06-08 01:26:39 · 17 answers · asked by Hove Andrew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Find new friends.
2007-06-08 01:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by neverwhere11 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. YOu don't have anything to worry about legally regarding the credit card, so don't even bother about that. Your friends' marriage is doomed, and you should surround yourself with positive people who ADD something to your life. Walk away from these people. They are both going downhill fast and you don't want to be taken for that ride with them! In the meanwhile, do not allow the woman to come to your home -- cease all communication.
2007-06-08 01:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't sound like friends to me. In my opinion you need to cut the ties. Ther's nothing you can do. There will no proof you started the card in his name, as you didn't do it in the first place. If it is causing arguments in your marriage then stop being firends with them cos you will end up ruining your own marriage and for what? People who are accusing ou of fraud and using you to get away from each other...
2007-06-08 01:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by Libby F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your friends that you don't want to be involved in their personal business anymore. Also, tell him that you did not get that credit card, she did, and you want no part of it. Your best bet is to get away from these people before they drag you into the alcohol and cocaine life they have built for themselves. They are no good for your future.
2007-06-08 01:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were you mate i'd take a step back, obviously this couple are now starting to disrupt your life too! i would tell her that she needs to get help for her drinking and since she is telling tales on you and causing your fella to be p****d off, that you think its best that you dont see each other until she has sorted her life out. i know that sounds kinda harsh and not very compassionate but if this carries on shes just going to take you down with her
2007-06-08 01:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by Gina M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sure you dont want to hear this but tell him the truth that his is a liar and a fat mouth. if she was such a good friend she wouldt be passing the buck on you and if he was such a good friend he would know u better than that. Who needs all that drama in there life?
2007-06-08 01:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by softnhotkitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These two don't sound like good friends to me. I think it's time to find a new set of friends. It's affecting the relationship you have with your significant other and that shouldn't happen.
Time to go your separate ways with these two.
Good luck
2007-06-08 01:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by rahtenrobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk, RUN AWAY from this whole situation. They are creating the mess, and, trust me, you are the one who will end up dirty. Get them both in the same room and tell them that you want nothing to do with either of them. If she shows up at your door, LOCK IT, and tell her to go away or you will call the police. This cannot end up well for you. GET OUT!
2007-06-08 01:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by Terri J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them both and say how you feel. Do not tell them to stop but ask them to cut back. If it does not work than I would get them to a rehab program and fast. They sound like they really do not care about their health. If there are children involved than I would get police involved as well.
2007-06-08 01:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by lisa S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their screwed up i think you should get new friends especially if it causing arguments in your own relationship. If their drinking and taking drugs theres no way for you to help them cuz they need to help themselves so you may aswell just let them get on with it and cut your ties with them.
2007-06-08 01:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for tough love. Wash your hands of them unless they get help for themselves. When their issues have an impact on your and your partner's life, time to back off and let them sink or swim. Offer help, but don't devote your life to breaking their habits...
2007-06-08 01:31:00 · answer #11 · answered by biscuitperifrank 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋