My husband and I filed for divorce but he still feels compelled to take care of the house. It is still in both our names and he is giving me alimony and child support. I don't mind him helping out, but he even feels obligated to take care of the yard by mowing and weed eating. He says that he still has an interest in the house and it's still his too. Is there more to it? Is this normal?
We do have a daughter and she does live with me too. Is this his way of taking care of her too?
2007-06-08 01:13:11 · 12 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what are you complaining about? My gosh...he gives you money and helps with the child you share, AND still mows the lawn!
You got it made! What you should start doing is thanking him for doing it. He doesn't have to do it. But he respects you enough, and cares about his child enough, to see that the two of you have a well groomed lawn.
He is a rare gem in the category of ex husbands. Do not take advantage of that fact. Let him know that you appreciate it. Remain friends for the sake of the child. She will appreciate that you did it FOR HER when she grows up.
2007-06-08 01:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be looking for a reason to keep contact with you.
On the other hand, his name is still on the house and he does have an interest in it and your daughter.
Once the divorce is final, if you're going to be the one owning the house, make sure his name is off it. If he offers to keep taking care of it, you will have to decide how much you feel comfortable with.
For the sake of your daughter, I hope you two can remain on good terms after the divorce. Good luck!
2007-06-08 08:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sounds like you're divorcing a good man. What's up with that? I've been seperated from my ex for over 3 years and live 400 miles away. Whenever I go up to visit my daughter and grandson, I always have to take care of the house because she (the ex) either doesn't care or won't. She won't even change a light bulb.
2007-06-08 08:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, does it bother you?
My husband would probably do the same thing. Caring for the house/yard/cars is how he shows affection (LOL, yeah romantic). Plus, it helps him relieve stress and he is proud of a job well done. If this house is the only house he has, I can see why he wants to maintain it still.
Any chance he still loves you?
2007-06-08 08:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the house is still his as well, it is his investment. Also, your daughter is living there and he is helping to maintain the property.
Maybe he still cares about you and wants to make sure you are being looked after.
He is the only one who knows why he feels this way.
2007-06-08 08:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful!!! Sounds to me like you are amicable enough for him to take care of a major investment. And yes, he is making sure that his daughter is living in a well kept environment.
2007-06-08 08:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why this would seem abnormal to you. After all, as he said, he does have half interest in the house, and his daughter does live there. I think you should consider yourself lucky.
2007-06-08 08:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only wish my ex husband helped me around the house, lady you have it good.
2007-06-08 09:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is just difficult for him to accept the fact that you are no longer together and this is a way to prove himself that he still forms part of ur life and that it will always be like this
2007-06-08 08:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by nap11t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like he said
its still 1/2 his
2007-06-08 08:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋