I am a sexist should this should be changed? (I'm being serious)?

Question

Ok, to begin I have no problem accepting a women as my intillectual and phsycological peers, equals or betters.

The real problem I have is I believe men are physically stronger pound for pound. I am the type of person that CANNOT tolerate domestic violence, the idea of a man using his physical strengh to intimidate or hurt a women actually makes my blood boil, and I feel it is an extreme sign of weakness and failure. Yet at the same time when a man hits another man it doesn't bother me.

Are my feelings towards this subject totally screwed up in todays society, afterall arent we all equal? or are there some elements of healthy sexism?

I have realised, I hate bullying regardless of gender.

Some very good points, I've really had a lot to think about.

Thank you all.

Answer 1

If you want to be happy and work towards self actualization you must change your ideas about women. You will never feel fully fulfilled until you can view your partner as an equal.

Answer 2

It is not sexist to believe that men are *on average* stronger than women. It is a biological fact. It is sexist to say that because they are stronger, they are somehow more worthwhile or entitled to more rights. Which I know is not what you are saying.

It is sexist to consider a woman getting hurt worse than a man getting hurt. But I think what is really bothering you is that you see the woman as less able to defend herself than another man would - basically the man is a bully picking on someone smaller than him. If a huge man were abusing a weaker man for a long period of time, would you consider this bad also? If so, I don't think that is sexist. If it is still different in your mind, I would say there is some sexism there. But it is very common. Maybe you should try to analyze why you feel this way.

Answer 3

It isn’t sexist, and you no doubt have many females agreeing with you on this particular issue.

It is weakness, I wouldn’t stretch to the word failure, but it is weak of a woman to let a man put her in a situation of domestic abuse. I would never say this to a person who has suffered at the hands of domestic abuse, because it isn’t necessary and the fact they‘ve been strong enough to move on, therefore rectify the situation and been successful. I’m not saying it out of spite or in a malicious way, the person simply wasn’t strong enough to get themselves out of the situation -at the time-, yes they shouldn’t -have- be in that situation in the first place but that is beside the point.

It is emotionally weak, it isn‘t physically weak however, I know many women who can take down a man, myself included, but if I was blinded by love, emotionally attached to this man, then I would find it emotionally hard to do anything, thereby doing nothing ‘might’ makes things better, maybe next time he won’t be angry et cetera.

Perhaps this isn’t politically correct but there is no other explanation, one feels too frightened to fight back, or leave, too emotionally involved, love, thereby emotionally weak. Don’t forget, this doesn’t just happen to women, there are many men who have been in this situation, which proves it isn’t about physical strength, it all comes down to emotions.

Answer 4

My first instinct to your question was to say that, yes, that is sexist. But, I'm not quite sure what you mean when you say that it doesn't bother you. I hope you didn't mean that you think it's okay for a man to hit another man or to hurt him.

Saying that something doesn't bother you as much personally as something else is just an admission of the the fact that you are a human being with subjective emotions. Some people get angry at things that push their buttons, but that doesn't mean that they don't recognize that other things are wrong as well.

What is sexist is Tinkz's answer, when she said that a man shouldn't hit a woman back if she hits him first. I am a small guy, but I don't say that it's not okay for a big guy to hit me back. I think that if a woman is being physically abusive towards a man, he has not only a right but an obligation to strike her back. Otherwise, he isn't a man in my opinion.

Answer 5

Does equal mean same? No....remember women and men have definite physical and mental differences, which cannot be classified to include ALL women and ALL men. The core element here is that each person, regardless of sex, (or any other classification) should have the freedom to choose how they want to manage their life.

Just because a human being is born as a female, doesn't automatically predestine her to be a mother, or a cook, wife or housekeeper. She may prefer to be an accountant, or a body builder. It is her choice. Same for men.......

To me, it appears that you understand that some men are stronger than women, and that is acceptable. Key word: "some" not 'all'.

Answer 6

You aren't a sexist if you believe in equal rights and opportunities for both genders. You've obviously confused the word with what is really your strong sense of justice and dislike of injustice. But, as they say, don't judge everyone. Some women can drive some men to commit domestic violence. Read the court cases and learn why it happens. I agree, drunkeness is no excuse for domestic violence. In my book it isn't a valid reason for any misbehaviour and so it really should bother you if a man hits another man. It's quite easy to kill with just a single blow. Again, read the court cases. meanwhile, keep up your strong sense of injustice. It will be a powerful weapon for understanding the problems of the Middle East, for example.

Answer 7

think the question should be why cant you accept a woman as your intellectual equal? Are you saying that men are smarter than women? that is something that has never been proven, but what I can tell you is that women are psychologically (at least I can spell it too, does that make me more intelligent?) better to cope than men in many situations. Men may be physically stronger but that does not mean that they are able to cope with a lot of lifes troubles unless they are sent out to kill the dinner what is the benefit. us women do not need looking after by a big strong man - all this bull about men being demasculated because women are now so independent really just shows how insecure and threatened by women they are.
there are manners and being kind to people regardless of gender, I am certainly not offended when a guy opens a door for me or if he doesnt - if I am physically capable then I am happy to open my own door, but if a guy opens a door for me then I am still happy and thank him, I dont fall down at his feet and say how wonderfully strong and capable he is!

Answer 8

No, you're just being realistic. It is actually, more upsetting when a stronger man physically attacks a weaker woman. I know the ladies on here will all disagree with me on that, but there's a reason why there's a bigger taboo about it that for the opposite. You guys are stronger, hands down! Everyone insists that I am not a true "feminist" for having taken Biology class, but I disagree.

"Equal" is not the same as "identical". For example, if a Black child is rushed to the ER with pain in his joints, they will run a quick sickle-cell anemia test. They probably would not for a White child. But this is actually treating the Black child "equally", with full knowledge of his inherent differences...in this case, a greater likelihood of sickle-cell. It is silly to insist that men and women are identical, unless you have an agenda that requires otherwise....which is a sign of religious devotion or blind faith, not intelligence.

Answer 9

There's not a lot I can add to the wonderful answers you have already received - genuine, and thought-provoking.

I'm female,but I think it would be pretty stupid of me to try and claim that women are physically as strong as men.I think both sexes are here on this earth to complement, and not compete with each other.

The main reason I wanted to answer your question was regarding the violence of males towards each other.

My friend's husband was having an argument with his brother-in-law, (my friend's brother), about money. The argument led to blows which resulted in the death of my friend's brother, and her husband being sent to prison, where he will be for another few years.

It was an argument over a very small sum of money, but it has led to the ruination of two families, and all because the two men thought it was ok to hit each other. They did not stop for one second to think of the consequences.

You don't sound sexist to me, but I would disagree with you in that I believe all violence is wrong, no matter who it is by, or against.

I like that old saying - "An eye for an eye leaves everybody blind".

Good luck to you.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

Well I think as long as you don't consider men higher and better beings than women or treat women like they are there to serve you, you are fine. Some men are stronger than some women and vice versa. I don't think your outlook is screwed up at all as I agree with the last part about the same sex hitting each other. I don't think you have anything to worry about changing your feelings of this subject.