I have a few couples who are married but they are open to other sexual activities, at one time i thought that its ussually the hubby pressures the women into it, but its not the case with 2 of the couple`s i know, it was the women who initiate it, so i guess my opinion just went dont the drain about the hubby pressuring, is it a product of the modern lifestyle ? is it because women are more liberated in their sex life, or is it becuase marriage is getting more and more of just a institution for making babies ? hmmm wonder if real love exists anymore or ppl just becoming an item just outta lust ? oh well,times is changing i suppose, in some ways i need to change myself too,just to protect myself i guess,anyway its just a curiousity question,,,dont burn me for this question, its a reality and it is happening, and if someone from this kind of relationship is around then i would love to know whats your opinion and the pro`s and con`s of it,
2007-06-07 23:35:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
what used to be cheating is now called "open marriage" ... many times the one that was being cheated on knew abut it, but pretended not to ... in the past marriages were even more just "institutions", but even then there were people who would get married for love to someone society wouldn't approve of ... There were cheaters then, and there are now, there were people who didn't mind having that kind of marriage, and there are now, and some call it open marriage ... but I'm not like that, and most of my friends are not like that ... I know that things that happen in life are unexpected, but I don't think I could ever cheat on my boyfriend ... I guess that's because I have my priorities relatively sorted out ... I do believe in love, and I can see the difference between love and having a crush. I don't think I could have kids with someone I don't love. I don't have them yet, and I never thought I would want to have any until I met my boyfriend. I can only hope for our love to grow stronger.
2007-06-07 23:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by tricky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex outside of marriage is not a new concept. Throughout history, there have been secret and not-so-secret liaisons between men and women of power and authority. Cleopatra had a child with Caesar - do you think Caesar's wife was unaware?
The modern "open marriage" is simply a public acknowledgment of what has been going on for centuries. I think people use the term to attempt to give credibility to their actions, as if full knowledge and consent of the spouse legitimizes sex outside of marriage. For the moralists, it never will.
My personal feeling is it creates undesirable complications. Not worth the trouble. But if you want to pursue it, I won't judge you.
2007-06-08 09:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by not yet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married couples who take part in these sort of relationships are one thing only, depraved. Its ridiculous, why be married if you want to sleep with other people?
I believe its a lack of self esteem and confidence on their part with little or no moral centre or a basic addiction to sex!
Love is out their so please do not give up on it! You need to find decent friends who have normal lives and a healthy social environment, these people are just brain washing you into thinking its normal, when in reality most suburban lifestyles are not like that.
Women who pursue open relationships while involved emotionally and physically with someone they are supposed to love are merely sluts who like to spread themselves about for a quick and cheap thrill and the same goes for the men if not worse.
How can a couple married pursue a family life with out it effecting their offspring and the marital status of their relationship, after all open marriage's can lead to affairs and divorce given time and they usually do!
So as far as your Friends are concern, they really need to get a life and stop acting like horny teenagers who still think they are 18.
People like that never grow up or grow inside, they merely live for the small decadent thrills of getting it on in front of their spouse with someone else..its pathetic
2007-06-08 07:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by celtic_colieen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've talked to a few people who say they tried open marriage, and all of them said it severely damaged their relationship. The insecurity and jealousy it creates is difficult for most people to overcome. I did see a special about it on tv, and the ones who said it was working, had lots and lots and lots of rules about who they did it with, what they did, when they did it, how they did...yikes. Both partners had all these rules so they still felt "in control" of the situation.
It'd be the perfect solution for boredom in committed relationships if we could handle the jealousy, but it is very difficult to control your emotions about something so intimate.
2007-06-08 22:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its eithier open marriage or f+ck off the house you are paying mortgage for into a small appartment while you pay alimony and child support to your ex misses because you were not able to deal with the fact that she needs a lover from time to time.
2007-06-08 07:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is up with open marriages? Which part of "forsaken all others" do these people not understand?
2007-06-11 21:42:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess people are getting tired of paying for divorces.
2007-06-08 06:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny friends you got
2007-06-08 10:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jezabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does not appel to me
I think it is sick
2007-06-08 06:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by Michael M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not for me but hey,to each their own..>=)
2007-06-08 11:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋