I am in love with a man that I have always been in love with. Occurances happened five years ago....we know we can only be truly happy together but we now both have our own families but are not happy with our current situations. Do we go be happy or do we stay on the sake of our kids......would it be selfish to be happy ? PLEASE HELP.....I miss him and love him so much but I am not "in" love with my current partner cause he dont live up to the man I truly love. CONFUSED.
2007-06-07 22:04:00 · 8 answers · asked by Me.Myself.& I 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You both had your shot in the sunlight, but you let it slip away. He has his wife and you have your husband. Your "happiness" would come for a price. Breaking up your homes, your spouses hearts, your childrens security. Don't be a ho and let sleeping dogs lie.
And if your husband does not measure up, that is your problem for putting someone else before him.
I hate homewreckers! You screw it all up for the good ones.
Tramp!
2007-06-07 22:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing confusing about it. See it many times here. You are hiding behind the love and happiness curtain, but both of you want to justify having affairs. Your happiness is about a bunch of crying kids left behind. But that's ok, you are happy and in love.
If you go with him, same thing will happen in about 2 years. Found another guy, fall in "love" again and dump this one.
2007-06-08 05:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being selfish. Things didnt work out with the "love" of your life you moved on, and now are married. The grass always looks greener on the outher side. If you leave your husband and go back to the other guy, it won't work. If you really married the wrong guy, and need out, get out, but don't go running to the first one. It will be harder then you think to get over your husband, He would have to go thur the same thing, and it won't work.
2007-06-08 06:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world did you marry if the guy wasn't the right man for you?? well too late--you are married with kids and you better get a grip on reality. This other guy would do well to stay away and stop playing the games he is playing---you leave and go with him and POOF--he turns into a jerk too. Make your own marriage work--stay and be a human being--stop with the silly dreams and grow up.
2007-06-08 05:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow, and i thought i was the only one in the world with this situation...well, here's what i did...i met a guy on the internet and fell in love with him. i lived in illinois and he lived in connecticut. my bf at the time was very abusive and i wasnt happy at all, however he did have money. and we also shared a kid together. i also have a daughter from a previous bf. so..i finally got up and left. im in connecticut now and im married to the best guy in the world. only thing im not currently happy about is that i had to leave my son behind b/c of illinois laws..but i do plan on getting joint custody. i say do what makes u happy. the kids will be happier when they are old enough to understand. they want their parents to be happy. u dont have to be unhappy and pretend to be happy just for the kids. we as mothers deserve happiness to. i say go for it. good luck and God Bless :D
2007-06-08 05:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How would you like it if your man cheated on you? It is unfair to do that. Either let go of this other guy, or leave your partner and start a new life.
2007-06-08 05:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you took the best deal at the time. there is no reason why you should string your husband along. how do you know that you want this other guy so bad? have you been having a affair? this is sad
2007-06-08 05:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by evets3423 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be selfish... rather than look outside.. look ways u can make your current marriage work.. its so easy to stand up in front of god and make a vow.. why not put some effort in keeping them
2007-06-08 05:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋