getting a divorce?

Question

ok here is the thing my husband and i have been together for almost 2 years he had this house before he met but the house was a wreak and i helped fix it up he didnt want me to work he wanted me to be a stay at home mom and we've been together for 4 yrs and i just found out hes just cheating for 2 weeks and he said he wants to be with the girl and if he moved that he would quit hes job and not pay me alamony and he would work under the table and we live in missouri a no fault state he left me here broke and im wondering what i can do to get some money to support me i have really bad anxiety because of him he was abusesive and im trying to make sure im ok i need help pleassssssssseeeeeeee help me

ok im doing like 20 things at once but im not a stay at home mom we dont have children i im a house wife the thing is that i put alot into this house and i dont think he should have this house cause i put all the work in and he says that hes going to sell it while im here im very gratful for the response but i want someone who knows the background and who knows if he can get away with the **** he pulled and if he can tell me he didnt want me to work then turn around and leave me here broke

Answer 1

Have it appraised. And ask for half the equity the improvements increased the value by. Your attorney can help you with that. Even though it is a no fault state, your grounds can still be adultery. Good luck and nail his azz good!

Answer 2

Forget about the house, it is a possession that will only remind you of how badly he treated you. What you need to concentrate on now is re-building your life. You won't be able to do that in the house that the two of you shared. There are free legal advice lines listed in your phone book and you can contact them concerning any reimbursement you feel you are due for the effort and expense that you put into the house. Then get out of the house and the marriage. He will eventually come back to you crying that he was confused and no longer wants the 'other woman'. Don't believe him. There will always be another woman for him. People who think they can get better than what they already have will always think that they can get better than what they have....or, once a cheater, always a cheater. Forget about the house, and forget about him. Concentrate on getting yourself healthy again by moving in with family or friends until you are able to support yourself independently.

Answer 3

You get 50% of the proceeds it's the law and file for divorce where you live before he leaves or has set up residence in another state of which is 6 months or so to do. Hire a lawyer now and he will have to pay for it that is also the law when the wife is a house wife. Hire a lawyer now...

Answer 4

The first thing you should do is contact a lawyer with experience in this kind of case. Also, you can find support groups for battered women. It will help a lot once you realize you're not the only one this has happened to. Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

Okay, take care of yourself. You are great, wonderful, beautiful, wise, intelligent and compassionate. He may be a jerk but you're great. Recognize your greatness, acknowledge yourself for the wonderful woman you are. There's a whole world out there waiting for you to make your mark on it. Go for it. If some jerk doesn't recognize how wonderful you are, you're better off without him. Dump him, divorce him, find you own life, make your own life. Be true and honest with yourself. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

Get out his house and move on with your life.

Answer 7

i dont know much about the states but in australia we have support groups ,you need to hang tuff ,you dont deserve to have put up with his sht,,now a good time to see how your family will support you emotionally,and prehaps finacially until you can get on your feet