Details.. Im 16. He's a month younger. Been datin since February. He asked me to marry him a couple days ago. I asked him if he REALLY thought about it & he said "We can get through anything & I love you so much" Also.. We argue alot.. atleast once a day & only known eachother for 6 months yet he says "I feel like I've known you my whole life." One more thing.. All our friends called him "Tha Playa" Supposedly once he found me he stopped.. cuz I'm "Different" & I wuznt easy like the others... Please Help..? Lol..
2007-06-07 20:42:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
inless you want to be divorced by the time your 18 don`t do it ...its hes a cheater now he will be when you get married...."boys" at that age like to play .....
Hes just trying to find a way to "own" you so no one else can have you.
2007-06-08 02:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by fla.girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Lets strip the body off this car and look at the guts. Through out time peeps have married young. And many stayed together to have a 50th anniversary. But then again, that was a different time. The age you 2 are is not so much an issue as the practicality of it. Who's house will you live at? How would he feel living at your house following the rules of your parents even though HE would be your husband? How will he, or you pay bills? Is he that rich? It is possible that a man-whore will find that one gal that he feels he so not want to let go. The plus, he came to that in his own and not by coercion by you or others. So, it maybe genuine. But if you fight once a day now. How much more and bigger the fights will be when he spends money you don't have to go out with the guys, or you do getting a jacket you just have to have? Cable bill, food bill, what car to get, practical but not really cool, or cool but sucks gas? Have you two sat down and worked out the details? Nothing kills love quicker than money troubles. If you both love each other that famously waiting another 48 months will not hurt. In the mean time you can be getting your financial act together.
2007-06-08 04:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young, and so is he! It is okay for the two of you to be in love, but getting married should definitely wait until you are several years older. Maybe you should both consider graduating from college first. You are not even out of High School yet. I am 52, and I can tell you from personal experience that it is a cruel, cruel world out there for people without a college education, or at least some lucrative vocational training. I dropped out of college. Not high school, but college. And it has was a mistake that I have regretted for years. It would have to be far worse for high school dropouts. Don't get married now, and definitely don't drop out of school is the best advice I can give you! You will find that most everyone else will say the same! *sm*
2007-06-08 05:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by LadyZania 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better wait awhile. Wait at least until you both have good jobs and are able to have a good life together. Don't rush into anything right now. Any guy that will tell you that he loves you only 6 months after he has met you, is probably trying to get a piece of a##. Don't ruin your life. You will end up divorced, have to be single raising children. It is a miserable life. Take it from one that struggled through it!! Give yourself some time to fall in love. Love does not come that easily. You both probably have a crush on each other right now. That can grow into love, but it takes a couple of years.
2007-06-08 03:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any respect for yourself - WAIT!!!. I know that you've heard everyone saying that you're too young, but if so many people are saying it, there might be something to it. If he 'LOVES YOU SO MUCH" he'll wait for you. If things go well (which they usually don't at that age) you can just break up and find someone who you'll be happy with. Besides, just the name Playa should tell you a lot. How do you know that he's not saying the same thing to other girls?? Think about it. Guys don't normally want to settle down at that age, he must have something else in mind. Be careful. Think about it and DON'T GET MARRIED TO HIM. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2007-06-08 06:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you are only 16 the last thing on your mind should be marriage. You all are too young. You know very little bout it each other. And take it from a girl who has dated all the wrong men. That lil line he is feeding you is bull s@$t!!!!!! They say that just to get in your pants, and if you have had sex with him all ready he got just want from you. Trust me it won't last long. If you are fighting now at 4 months what will you be doing in a year from now???? Think about it, there are so many great men out there and trust me when you find the right one who will not have to second guess your self. You are still in high school you still have college to go. College men are GREAT!!!!!( some of them)
2007-06-08 03:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by cutechi101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young and haven't known each other long enough. Give yourselves time. And 4 months and already fighting every day is not a good sign. A lot of people don't even get in any arguments during the first 6 months. Take your time or you may regret it.
2007-06-08 03:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cruisin'=^_^=Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not ready to get married and neither is he. I know you love this guy and feel like you've known him his whole life but you'll feel that again. If I had a dollar for every time I thought I had found the right one. I would be a millionaire right now.
2007-06-08 03:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the rush, youre only 16, you havent even seen life yet. By the time you 20 you will want to get divorced. Your'e not even a legal drinking age yet. You can accept his proposal but wait a few more years until your'll actually tie the knot, you might even change your mind by then
2007-06-08 03:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!
The key word would be that you are "16" and still have a lot of growing up to do, so does he.
Why don't you guys rather wear a promise ring, that you promise to marry each other one day.
But from the sounds of it you don't sound sure of him so i suggest you be honest with your self and him.
I have been with my guy for 4 years and it's only going to be another 4 or 5 years before we marry. I am 19....
2007-06-08 03:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, marriage is not an option. You stated several reasons why, and others here have stated good reasons as well. Sixteen is WAY too young to be worrying about marriage.
Enjoy your relationship with him but tell him you won't even consider talking about marriage until you've at least graduated from high school.
2007-06-08 03:51:20 · answer #11 · answered by 1M9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋