My father died last year and i was just 15. Is it ok to still talk about it?

Question

I think talking about it helps me like therapy. But I don't want to dwell on it because i am happier now. What do you think?

Answer 1

I lost my father 20 years ago. I have quite a successful career, yet I keep remebering him five times daily in my prayers. He is teh man, who has biologically responsible for my creation. He is teh man who has chalked out my career. He is the man who always keep me in his prayers without any selfish desire.
it is normal my dear. people who don't remeber their parents, are net losers.

Answer 2

If talking helps you than you should do more of it. You've experienced a huge loss at such a young age. Talking about how you feel is a great way to cope with it. I'm glad your happier now because it shows that you've found some closure and are ready to move on with your life. Good for you :)

Answer 3

It depends as to what you are talking about. If it is the passing of life, no. If it is about the life you had with him, yes. Your dad probably taught you how to live and that is what he would have you dwell on.

Take the experiences that he gave you during his life and add to them with new ones all your own. They will be seasoned by the memory of old times and your dear departed dad living within you.

Answer 4

Losing a parent is a very traumatic event in ones life. I lost may mom at 16 and I still talk about her loss years later. It's something u never get over. Talking is very theraputic. There is no time limit. U will stop talking about it when u feel it's time to stop.

Answer 5

Do what you feel like doing, when you feel like doing it. It does not hurt you to remember DAD. It does get better. You are not alone with this one. Plenty of people have to settle as best they can without a parent. You are young, so I understand you asking. The rule is, if you feel the need to talk, then talk; likewise, if you feel the need to suppress talking about him, do that to. Your feelings may change from day to day. IT IS OK, EITHER WAY. THAT IS HOW WE ADJUST AND ACCEPT TRAGEDIES.
As you live your life, you will find the 'hurt' of missing him, replaced with warm thoughts of him....things he said, things he did, etc. BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF. GOD BLESS

Answer 6

Of course it's ok.My dad has been gone five years and i still talk about him.The thing now is i can remember him and talk about him without breaking down.Now they are pleasant memories and make me thankful that i had him for as long as i did and take comfort in the fact that maybe he pops in from time to time to see how i am.

Answer 7

Talking about him is a part of remembering him and please keep talking about your Father its good for you.You will find that as years pass you will talk about him less as your life gets busy but that doesnt mean you have forgotten him or you dont love him.It would be a good idea to start counsiling so you have someone to talk to.I wish you the best of luck and God Bless You.

Answer 8

Because of ur age. Mostly Teen agers dont worry about anything and also they dont take care of anything, but later they will realize it. And again dear u need not worry about it. Study well and work hard, that will lead to ur success. Be present. Be happy. There is no wrong to be happy.


With love
Ammu

Answer 9

whenever you are ding something and if that reminds you of how he used to do it what he would tell you if you did it wrong then share that thought with with the person beside you.that way you will feel good about your father.you can always talk about him but talk to someone who would like to hear about it and would tell you to keep going.remember wherever your father today he is looking at you and is very proud about how you have coped with the loss.

Answer 10

honey, he was your father, he always will be, it is ok to talk about him whenever and however much you like...it isn't dwelling...you have fond memories that you will never lose. You are honoring his memory...not dwelling on the loss.