my wife wants to bed with one of my friends....?

Question

i was hurt a lot....
but i had no choice to give it a go...
but i want to be present there and make my wife realize that i m better than my friend....
what to do?

Answer 1

Talk to your friend. And tell him what the deal is. Only when it comes time for the big moment, have him make fun of her when she takes her clothes off. And call her very trashy names. Hopefully you will have a better friend than a wife. Then kick her azz out!

Answer 2

There are a numerous issues here.
Your wife is willing to break her marriage vows.
Your wife does not give a crap about your feelings.
No one owns someone just because they are married, if your wife wants to sleep with someone else, it is her choice, not your choice.
Why would it make you a better man if you are present when this event occurs? Have you considered the fact that she is probably already having sex with him. Being present will make you less of man, unless you plan on kicking the crap out of him.
This so called friend, appears to be a more of someone you may hang out with, but I would not call them a friend, a true friend would not break the trust of the friendship by sleeping with your wife.
Consider the fact that your marriage is over, be a man and make plans for divorce. The sooner you file the better off you are going to be.

Answer 3

I think what you will be doing by letting your wife be with your friend is a BIG mistake. It will ruin your marriage. Yes, you have a choice, don't let this happen. If she wants to do this, then she was never your wife, but a harlot. She is actually disrespecting you as her husband and she doesn't have any respect for herself by wanting to let some other man 'do' her.

Seems like you and her are not taking your marriage vows seriously. A sad case.

Answer 4

I have to ask you this why then I have to ask your wife why because she doe not sound like she cares about you or loves you or Even loves her self. Then I would ask your friend is he a friend because friends would not do this to friend's.
It sounds like your wife has her mind made up no matter what you say or do. I would say seek some help like a councilor because it sounds like you been through a lot and you need help getting out of this.

Answer 5

Wow. Tough thing for you. You, of course, cannot control your wife, and to try to do so will just ruin whatever is left of your relationship. But if you're feeling hurt already, you'll be devastated after she actually goes through with it. I suggest you have some kind of support group..such as friends/therapist/counselor to help you get through this and decide how and if you want to handle this relationship in the future.

Answer 6

first of all, you do have a choice
in this situation.
you can choose
to not to agree to your wife's request
and let her know
what you will do
if she follows through
with sleeping with your friend.
your wife does not sound like
she really cares anymore about you
if she is talking about sleeping with another man,
regardless if he is your friend.
even though you are hurt,
you need to get a backbone asap
and stick up for yourself.
You will respect yourself more
if you stand your grounds.
good luck!
not

Answer 7

you are hurt, then why did you let it happened? you have a choice to choose whats right for the both of you. your wife will think that its ok, let her know that you feel bad, that your hurting..

Answer 8

All of my friends believe in God and know that I would arrange for them to meet God first hand. If they ever tried to sleep with my wife. If she wants to sleep with your friend then divorce her and loose your friend.

Answer 9

Your crazy for putting up with it,and you must be a love sick puppy.Your wife doesn't love you,if she did she wouldn't think of sleeping with someone else. This question can't be for real.

Answer 10

Loose the so called friend, loose the so called wife.