should i stay employed or stay home and help my pregnant wife?

Question

my wife has had some complications with her pregnancy and i want to stay home and care for her but she keeps telling me to go to work. i cant concetrate at work becaues im always thinking if shes alright. should i or shouldnt i??

Answer 1

Perhaps you should hire a Duola or a nurse to be with your wife? Either way, being employed and having benefits is of the utmost importance. If her complications are that severe, insurance will probably cover a nurse for her. You're sweet to want to stay home, but get a cell phone, get her a cell phone and call her on your breaks and lunches if you're not already doing so.

Honestly, I know you feel helpless. There's nothing you can do and your wife and your unborn baby, which you probably already love, are right there and need help. Sadly, there's nothing you can do. I'm not sure what kind of help she needs but hopefully she will deliver soon and have a beautiful baby for you.

Just remember, 'this too shall pass.' Trust your wife. If she needs you, would she tell you? I don't know what your financial situation is, but having you freaking out isn't going to help. Learn to breathe deep, make sure she is breathing deep.

Ill keep you guys in my prayers. Good luck in whatever you decide.

oo- ps - definitely look into the family medical leave act! That guy up there had a good idea! But again, you might not be paid. Do what you think is right. Good luck!

Answer 2

Keep working.

Security and reduction of stress is very important during pregnancy. If she feels more secure with you at work, then you *are* helping her.

You can still help her by seeing that she has what she needs nearby her when you leave: water, crackers, whatever she actually eats... and access to a phone so you can call her now and then. It is also kind of handy is a person is on bed rest to move your bed, or a single for daytime, right up by the bathroom door.

Just keep showing her you love her, and that her child will be safe in the world.

Answer 3

There is an option that no one on here has mentioned , it is called The Family Leave Act. It protects employees who, like yourself, have a spouse in medical need.

You are allowed I believe it is 6 months of leave, sadly unpaid, however if I am not mistaken the Family Leave Act allows you to file for disability, should your employer have short/long term disability insurance.

Check with your HR department for details of the FMLA.

Answer 4

if you want to do it and financially able to then i would talk to your HR about FMLA it allows up to 6months. and you keep your job. and I'm speaking from personal experience. i had a very difficult first pregnancy and my husband was in your situation now. and he had to make the choice and since we had some money saved he choose to take off. and at first i didn't want him to but then it was such a help and i was very grateful that he did. the only think with FMLA is that you have to be at your job for 1 year. hope this helps and everything works out for you ~~~good luck~~~

Answer 5

You're helping your wife by staying employed. Don't give her something else to worry about by talking about quitting. That will only create more problems.

Answer 6

There is no reason that you can't do both. Where there's a will, there's a way. Money is hard enough to come by right now, and even more so with a little one on the way.

Answer 7

um - if you are at home with her who is going to earn the money to pay the bills? Don't you think you are causing her MORE stress by worrying about the job you don't want to go to?

Answer 8

stay employed someone needs to make some income

Answer 9

do you have hte financial means to be able to stay home with her? if not then that will create more of a stress on her.
take your cues from her, if she feels ok alone then let her be.

Answer 10

If you can afford it, apply for family medical leave. they have to hold your job for up to 12 weeks (I think).