well it's nothing too serious, it's just that i'm having problems with a friend of mine : she's really nice to me and she's always trying to be nice with me. but the problem id that she insults me without even noticing. i tried to talk to her about it the only answer i got from her was:"sorry i won't do it again" and right after her vow she does it again. any ideas? what s the best thing to do?
2007-06-07 18:55:47 · 10 answers · asked by yqwen91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She sounds narcissistic, and uncaring. Don't feel bad about someone elses personality flaw...be around people that make you happy.
2007-06-07 18:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by zz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe shes just the kind of person that says whats on her mind and doesn't mean to hurt your feelings, or maybe she thinks that it wasn't even mean and thats the reason for her "not noticing". Well you are obviously more sensitive then her, unless shes just cold hearted, and tell her that it really hurts your feelings when you say the things you do. Tell her you know she doesn't mean it, but it is hurting your friendship badly. If she is a true friend she will really try and stop. (She says she will, but its not that important to her so she doesn't) And if it continues, tell her that your feelings are obviously not important to her and same with your friendship.
2007-06-07 19:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever read the 4 agreements ? it not let me tell you that there s a chapter where it says you mustn't take anything personal, it 's her own "dream " . in other words, just understand that what she does it is not because of you and then you will feel better and when she notices your reaction she may change. I f you have the chance read the book and you will see everything different.
2007-06-07 19:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by hope55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen be straight forward with her since she obviosly did not get the message. tell her if you cant be nice or say anything nice to me then i guess we cant be friends. if she does that im sorry thing say last chance and mean it dont talk to her for a couple days see what happens
2007-06-07 19:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu say she is nice to you and doesn't realize when she insults you. Could be you are very sensitive about yourself and maybe have low self-esteem. i'm just guessing. Try not to be so sensitive to her remarks, because she doesn't know she is doing it anyway.
2007-06-07 19:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just like that. If you really want to remain friends, you will have to quit carrying your feelings on your shoulder. Every time she does it, remind her of the promise she made to you.
2007-06-07 18:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she really ur friend?? If she insults u thats not a true friend. A friend sticks by u not insults u.
2007-06-07 19:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by spartan1820 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be close friend with a negative person. She may be jealous.
2007-06-07 19:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by MrsCAPTAIN !!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just her ways mistakes do happen brush it off and give her a very quick come back and maybe she will stop.
2007-06-07 19:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everytime she does it point it out It might just be a bad habit
2007-06-07 18:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Pogo Addict 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋