my husband is a alcoholic and always can't control his own temper. Could someone help me?

Answer 1

You have to help yourself in this situation. If he's hurting you one people you love, then it's time to bite that bullet and leave until he agrees to get serious help. Be there for him, but don't come back until he follows through to be sure he not just saying that to get you back.

Answer 2

If you want a good answer to your problem then we need more to go on then just your husband being an alcoholic
and can't control his temper.Most alcoholic are like that and most wives will put up with it regardless of what someone tells you to do. I can tell you to leave the bum but will that make a difference I don't think so. What i will tell you is there are good men out there who don't drink but you need to make the first move and get out of the situation your in right now and go out and find that good man.

Answer 3

If he's beating or hitting you, you need to get to a safe place, or call the police. If he's verbally and emotionally torturing you, you don't deserve all of that and you have to decide when enough is enough. The suggestions of Al-Anon for yourself is a good one. The other members will understand where you are coming from, and give you lots of support. He'll have to want to stop for himself and no other reason, before he'll quit on his on.

Answer 4

If your husband is not listening you, then you must find someone who he will listen to. Is there someone that he will be open to and be more incline to listen? Involve that person(s) immediately. Sometimes it helps to bring the family together to talk to him.

Get in contact with alcoholic recovery person, mainly a female. Request for that person to come for dinner and see what happens.

God Bless

Answer 5

greetings...first off please except my sympathy for your situation. i grew up in a house with an alcoholic..my mom. it was hard on my brothers and sisters, but especially my dad, which ultametely ended in divorce. even though it's your spouse and not a sibling, i believe the advice im going to give you will apply. unfortunately only your husband can turn himself around. not anyone or anything can magically make this happen exept him. like all addicts, there comes the time of hitting rock bottom. this is where the addict see's him/herself for who they really are. they get a glimps of the damage they are responsible for, and with the right help and support can turn there lives around. i dont know you or your complete situation but i do know this, you need to express your concerns to your husband when he is sober. he needs to know that what he's doing is ripping you(family) appart. you must take a stand with him, and present him with the ultimatem that if he continues this behavoir that you(family) are not going to be a part of it. it took the thought of my mom loosing her husband and her kids to finally get her turned around. im sure your husband loves you and his family. somehow he got derailed and is lost. if you havent allready, seek out AA. either in the phone book or if you belong to a church,or know of one, they also have programs that can help you. you might try talking your husband into seeking help first. usually and alcoholics first line of defense is they dont think they have a problem. you must make him see this. if you are left with know other options, in other words he has no desire to get help, you must come up with a plan for yourself and family in the event your forced to take action. my heart truly goes out to you. there's nothing easy or fun about doing this. but trust this, an alcoholic will take everyone and everything down with them if you let them. please remember you dont have to go through this alone. contact AA. they have professional people that can advise you and guide you through this. God bless you.....good luck

Answer 6

it is wise to tell someone... a best friend, some one that you can trust so that if GOD forbid, anything should happen, where you weren't able to speak for yourself, then they would have some help as to what happened. You should get yourself away from this situation.

I know that sometimes, its easier said than done to do this in ones mind, but if you have children, you would be traumatizing them. They wouldn't be able to express themselves and you would see this anger manifest itself in their young lives in some other form.

And if not, what on earth are you still there for. They will not change. Mine didn't. I left him and my baby and I haven't been happier since. Except well, not even on my wedding day!

Answer 7

You need competent help with this. I'd suggest contacting your local branch of the organization called "Al-Anon". See the info at the below link. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Call Alcoholics Anonymous and have them direct you to the nearest Ala-non meeting. You won't regret it.

Answer 9

If he abuses you then ''GET OUT''.There are all kinds of shelters and if it is only a drinking problem then try''AL ANON''.It is a program that helps you to understand a drunk and offers you ways of dealing with your situation.Check your phonebook for the nearest chapter to you.Please don't take the abuse especially if it is physical.Nobody deserves that.Good luck and please take care.

Answer 10

you are not helping by doing nothing, AAA-rehabs-911-counseling.